Carmen Davailus, FNP

Start Out Your New Year By...

2010-01-03T17:44:00.000-08:00

thinking in a new way!

It's an exciting time of year because we have the chance to start all over. Even if our external life doesn't change a lot, certainly we have the control to change how we think. Isn't this the first step to changing how we live, afterall? We can do this any time of the year, of course, but what better time then right now at the start of 2010!

If you follow this blog at all, you know that I'm a book junkie. I have all kinds of information about books, CDs, Kindle reading materials and such from amazon.com. Yes, your purchases help me to keep my websites and blogs alive (thank you!), but I also love to talk about the books I read and the CDs I listen to when I'm driving about.

I've been reading Wayne Dyer's latest book, Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits. Hay House, 2009). I started reading this book on my Kindle New Years day and even the introduction really spoke to me. If ever there was a paragraph that describes just how would like to be, this would be it. The only thing better? If I had written it myself! ha! I read this paragraph, and knew I would have to finish the book soon. Our thoughts, afterall, do create our reality.

So ponder Dr. Dyer's writings about how he practices what to think and his experience studying the Lao-tzu ...

"I find I now choose thoughts that are flexible, not rigid; soft, not hard. I think with humility, not arrogance; with detachment, not attachment. I practice thinking small and accomplishing big things, as well as thinking in harmony with nature, rather than with my ego. The idea of not interfering replaces meddling and advising. I prefer peaceful solutions over the notion of fighting to solve disputes. I opt for contentment, rather than ambition; arriving, not striving. And most significantly, I choose thoughts that are congruous with the Great Tao (God), rather than the illusions of self-importance conjured up by ego." (Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits. Hay House, 2009).

Love this! If you would like to read more, click on any of the links to purchase your own Wayne Dyer gems. You won't pay any more, but your purchases help me to keep my blogs and websites (www.naturally-holistic.net and www.pray-with-beads.com ). I have devoured all of the books and meditations on the carousel below. Enjoy!

My Gift

2009-12-19T07:04:00.000-08:00

Writing blogs and websites works for me in so many ways:

I enjoy it

I make extra money

I have hope for the future-more free time to enjoy the things that bring me joy!

What brings you happiness? Have you ever considered writing about it-sharing it with the world? It is so easy! Just click on the link above or below to learn more!

PS- The Special is my gift to YOU!

What Can I Give?

2009-12-01T00:01:00.000-08:00

It is getting to the season where we think more about gifts. Sometimes we don't know 'what' to give to our coworkers, friends, those who help us out all year long (paper-delivery person) or even our loved ones.

Gift Giving Made Easy

Give to others because they need it, not because you need to provide it.

Sometimes we give gifts because it makes us feel good, not because we are giving someone what they really need. Most people have simple needs, whether they realize it or not. One thing we all have in common is the need to feel acknowledged and appreciated. This means we are understood. If you are a good listener, you will know what to give. The simplist, most thoughtful gift will be the most appreciated.

I recently had surgery and when I talked about it to my friends, I mentioned just how much I would love to have egg drop soup when I'm not feeling well. In fact, I mentioned it more than once. After surgery, someone very close to me offered to bring me something special, and brought me a couple cans of chicken noodle soup. I was appreciative, of course, but when I said that I was really craving egg drop soup, the reply was, 'oh, I didn't know you liked that.' The rest of the conversation was about his particularly bad day at work. The BIG GIFT I needed was simple acknowledgement. How often do we really give that gift to one another?

Prayer example for choosing the best gift for those we love:

Lord, please open my heart and my ears so that I may give the gift that _____ really needs from me. Release me from my need to provide this gift for any other reason. Amen

or repeat this mantra on every beads of your rosary or prayer beads:

I hear ___

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Kindle Magic

2009-11-25T09:24:00.000-08:00

Click on any item above to learn more and order.

I've had my Kindle for almost 2 years and just love it. I can take all my favorite books with me and pick out new ones to be downloaded in just seconds. Did I mention that the downloads are yours forever and costs much less? I still love to hold a real book sometimes, but I just can't resist my Kindle.

Is this the year for you to experience some of the Kindle Magic?

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Perspective!

2009-11-24T21:06:00.000-08:00

Remember that question I ask myself to keep things in perspective?
Will I remember this on my deathbed?

So, what did I remember and think about on my 'deathbed?' (Okay-a little drama Queen here!)

I thought about my son and how I couldn't leave him alone. He has friends, but no other family for support. Since he was born and his father left, it was just the two of us.

I really wanted to see my husband. I felt very alone. I didn't expect to feel alone.

As I wrote, I try to live each day as if it could be my last, however I've failed miserably. This event really brought this home to me. Most of my days are spent working, and I certainly struggle with balance in my life.

I did not think about my work at all. This isn't to say that I don't love my work and put 100% or more into the relationships I have with my patients and coworkers. It is just that in the end, my work didn't matter. How I touched others and how they touched me did matter, though.

I remembered only good stuff, by the way. I really wanted to hang around for more!

Ways to Remember

2009-11-21T20:17:00.000-08:00

Do you ever have a hard time trying to focus on what is really important? I do. The pull of the chaos and drama of the world seem to be so strong that I forget about what is really important. I heard a coach tell a player the other day to 'shake it off' after a player made a bad play. Sometimes we need to just 'shake it off' too.

How about a few ways to try and shake it off and remember what is really important?

I like to surround myself with simple beauty. I've created some beautiful bookmarks that really do the trick. First of all, I love to read. Taking the time to read is a little gift I give myself. Reading with a bit of bling or natural beauty-ah, perfection!

Visit Carmen's Treasures to see more examples. Each one is a one-of-a-kind, and they make great gifts.

Do You Have a Passion to Share?

2009-11-20T20:26:00.000-08:00

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Spend more time with friends and loved ones?

Get a jump on holiday shopping?

Earn extra holiday cash for next year?

Share your Passion with the world and start a potential new career with a product that truly changes lives!

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What Would You Think About?

2009-11-16T08:54:00.000-08:00

Life BEFORE Death
Prior to this event, there is one thing I abosolutely knew-the worst thing that could ever happen would be the loss of my son-whether that be in Iraq or right here in Texas. I couldn't imagine ever taking another breath, although I knew I would have to. I thought about this a lot when he was deployed in the military.

During those moments when my body seemed to fail me, the predominant thought was-'I can't die today. I can't leave my son.' All along I believed that the worst thing that could happen would be for something to happen to him, when in truth, what kept me going was my desire to be there for him. This surprised me. I'm not really proud to say this, but it really surprised me. I guess I just hadn't thought about this before.

What Would You Think About?

Holiday Special

2009-11-15T10:51:00.000-08:00

This is my way of saying THANK YOU to all my loyal readers!

Only $5.00 Shipping on total order purchased from Carmen's Treasures!

Whether you purchase one or 10 rosaries, prayer beads or necklaces... the total shipping will be $5.00.

This offer will run from today through midnight 12/32/2009.

I'm working on some new designs and items will be added weekly, so check back frequently. I also do special orders-just go to the Contact page of pray-with-beads.com and ask for your own one of a kind.

Death-Why Are We So Intrigued?

2009-11-13T08:30:00.000-08:00

Life BEFORE Death
Why Are We So Interested in This?

Of all the human events that can take place in our lives, there are two which we ALL have in common: We are born and we will die. How will those events impact the time between them? There is only one person who has control over this, and that is you.

There are books and articles written by people who had near death experiences. The entire experience is intriguing because while we don't want to experience it, we know we will one day. What will our experience be like? How much control will we actually have over it? Author Randy Pausch's preparation for his own death taught us a great deal about living a life in line with values.

I've been thinking about this a lot more lately than ever. I had a terrible reaction to some medication and almost died. I'll tell you my story-

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Happy Veteran's Day!

2009-11-11T09:20:00.000-08:00

A Special Prayer in Honor of Our Veterans

A SOLDIER PRAYER
Brave warriors, should fate find us in battle, May our cause be just.
May our leaders have clear vision.
May our courage not falter.
May we be triumphant an earn victory as we show mercy to our enemies.
May our efforts bring lasting peace.
May our sacrifice be always appreciated by those we serve.
May we return to our loved ones unharmed.
Should we be harmed, may our wounds heal.
Should we perish in the struggle, may God embrace us and find for us a place in His Kingdom. http://www.faithfulcross.com

Happy Veteran's Day!

What Would You Do?

2009-11-09T20:37:00.000-08:00

Life BEFORE Death
I experienced an anaphylactic reaction to some medication last week. Basically, the medication caused my body to go into shock where I had no blood pressure, weak pulse and couldn't breath well. It is all kind of a blur except that I remember it happened very quickly, and I remember the palpable tension in the room. I could hear, but because I didn't have enough blood to my brain, I wasn't able to see anything but black. I had excruciating pain to my abdomen from the lack of good circulation. I was very flushed and sweating alot. Thankfully, I was at my physician's office, and they were quick to respond.

I could hear their voices, and at times I could even respond to them, but I felt quite certain that if something didn't happen quickly, I was going to die. I have never had a feeling like this is my life. It wasn't a huge panic type experience. It was more of a 'knowing.' I was taken by surprise! I try to live each day as if it could be my last, but I truly never expected last Wednesday to be my last day. It had been like any other ordinary day. I was tired from working long hours in the clinic, and I yearned to have a real day off to just relax. Even so, I hurried about to get my errands done all the while promising myself that 'some day' soon I would enjoy a relaxing day with friends.

This day, though, I didn't have lunch with friends; I didn't laugh with people I love; I didn't show my husband the love I felt for him.

No, I didn't do that. I think sometimes God gives us little nudges toward change. This day he gave me a big kick in the pants! The time to enjoy life is now.

These are the days!

Life Before Death?

2009-11-04T17:16:00.000-08:00

One of my favorite questions for myself is this: Will I remember 'this' on my deathbed? Suddenly life is put into perspective. If the 'this' is insignificant, then I have to wonder if it is worth getting all worked up about. If the 'this' is profound (even if simple), then it gets my attention.

It has taken me a week to even begin this blog entry. Yes, a whole week! What could be so profound, so life changing that it would take me a week to even sit down and write about it?

Death-or in my case, near-death. I believe that everything happens for a reason. I now question my beliefs, my attitudes and most certainly my values. Have you ever thought about the impact death has on your own life?

You can read about my experience right here or simply follow the blog posts to come. I plan to have several pages devoted to death and life, and hope to include reader entries as well.

Of all the human events that can take place in our lives, there are two which we ALL have in common: We are born and we will die. How will those events impact the time between them?

Ready to Connect?

2009-10-20T00:01:00.000-07:00

A close network of friends and family can sustain you in good times and in more challenging times.

It is a good time to take a look at your relationships. Relationships both ways-we contribute and we take. Are you giving and taking? Our friends and other loved ones need to know that we need them, too. It is okay to lovingly take. A connection with others is one of our spiritual needs. There are others! Click here to learn more!

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Embrace

2009-10-17T00:01:00.000-07:00

Authentic Living is more about what you EMBRACE and less to do with what you AVOID

Amazing things happen when you opt for healthier choices. No, it isn't always easy and it isn't always what feels 'natural' to us. Habits that do harm are good ones to let go of, though.

Start by embracing good habits and those 'less than healthy' habits will just melt away.

Be as patient with yourself as you would be with anyone else you love!

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Are you a Miracle?

2009-10-14T00:01:00.000-07:00

Are you a miracle in someone's life? It doesn't take a huge effort. A simple smile, kind word, real attention and active listening can make an ordinary day into a real miracle!

Guess what? It won't cost you anything, but it will mean more than money can buy to the recipient.

Help build on a miracle today!

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Are Your Spiritual Needs Met?

2009-10-11T00:01:00.000-07:00

Prayer and Spirituality

Spiritual Needs is one way to look at the definition of Spirituality. We all have spiritual needs.

If our spiritual needs are not met, we might feel some distress-also known as spiritual distress You have probably felt spiritual distress many times, but just didn't know it. You may not have been able to even identify why you felt distressed. Wouldn't it be great to leave that all behind? You can!

Spiritual Needs
As humans, we all have the need to:

Connect with a sacred source

Believe in a higher power

Have Hope

Find Meaning and Purpose in life

Experience humor

Experience Forgiveness

Connect with Others

Have the ability to love and be loved

Be filled with a sense of Gratitude

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Graceful Aging

2009-10-08T00:01:00.000-07:00

Steps for Graceful Aging (7-13)

7. Practice affirmations daily-our minds believe what we tell them is true. The Imagery-Visualization pages can give you plenty of guidance. If you aren't familiar with this, you may be passing up some wonderful opportunities.

8. Keeping a Spirit Journal of one's day including posts about gratitude help to keep the mind sharp and the heart soft.

9. Learn to love spontaneity

10. Keep busy, but not crazy busy. Your mind needs 'quiet time' also (see #1 for some helpful hints about stressbusters.

11. Have fun, laugh and play (I like to go to parks and swing on the swings. The feel of the breeze through my hair and the rise and fall of the swing are invigorating-so are the memories of my childhood.

12. Balance Balance Balance This is a tough one for me, too!

13. Take time to pray-Connect with God

The Steps to Graceful Aging relate directly to our Spiritual Needs. More about Spiritual Needs Coming Soon. You don't have to wait, though.

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Graceful Aging: 13 Easy Steps

2009-10-05T00:01:00.000-07:00

The First 6 Steps

1. Practice StressBusters of your choice-routinely and regularly

2. Limit or omit alcohol consumption

3. Challenge yourself daily-puzzles, games... Try something New, even.

4. Put away the remote control-read a book. Try reading something that you would ordinarily not pick out

5. Connect with others- our relationships (people and animals) keep us focused

6. Learn something new daily, whether it is a new word or something bigger like a new language

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Uncertain Times Call for...?

2009-10-02T00:01:00.000-07:00

Uncertain times call for certain responses.

Notice I used the word 'responses' and not 'reactions?' When I think of a 'reaction', I think of knee jerk, emotional type behaviors. When I think of a 'response', I think of something a bit more thought out. Anticipation goes a long, long way. In my work right now, people are sick and scared about the prospect of having 'swine flu.' Bad manners, rude verbal attacks and even demanding behavior from people who have waited for their healthcare happens. It seems to be happening more lately than ever before. Okay, so when I've already worked 10 or more hours without even much of a bathroom break, my initial response to someone telling me off is to give it right back. I am human, and don't we want to defend ourselves. What would happen if I fired right back in defense? I would probably get fired right back at and things would really heat up.

So, I prepare and try to take care of myself so I can respond and not react.

6 Thoughts About Keeping My Cool Amist the Choas

#1. People are good deep down, but scared and sick today. It isn't personal.

#2. Remember to breath, stay calm and focus on trying to acknowledge their situation. (I understand that you aren't feeling well, and you just waited so long while I took care of the other sick people. Let's see what we can do to help you to feel better.)

#3. Focus on the results of the visit, not the attacks coming my way. I try to see every person as if they were a family member who I would want the best for.

#4. Grab onto those prayer beads and think of the big picture. (Help me to be a vessel of love; help me to be a channel of all things good; help me to stay cool; PS: I'ld like to have time for lunch and a quick bathroom break, too! (<: )

#5. Give the gift of presence by listening with eye contact.

#6. If I'm not able to get past the drama or if I consider it 'abusive,' I calmly say the following,' I am not able to take care of your health needs at this time. I ask that you leave, and return when you are able to talk to me in a respectful way.' Thankfully, I haven't had to say anything of the sort for a long time. You've got to love yourself, too. Being a good person doesn't mean you let people run over you.

I'm sure you've got your own 'chaos' to deal with. I hope these words can help support you.

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For Every Action, There Is...

2009-09-30T00:01:00.000-07:00

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Something more to think about...

The statement means that in every interaction, there is a pair of forces acting on the two interacting objects. An 'object' in this case can be a person, of course. The size of the forces on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object. Forces always come in pairs - equal and opposite action-reaction force pairs. This law describes the relationship between the forces acting on a body and the motion of that body. They were first compiled by Sir Isaac Newton in his work Philosophiæ Naturalis Principia Mathematica, first published on July 5, 1687.

So, other than the obvious, what does this mean to us? It may not seem like an equal reaction at the time, and most certainly it will be. I can think of so many examples where this law hit me hard, but never quite so important as in my role as a parent.

Here are a couple thoughts for today:

Why not choose a positive action? It is just as easy (okay, sometimes way more difficult) to be positive as it is to be negative. If your action or response is positive, the reaction will be positive as well. When my son was born, even though I thought I was already a pretty good person, I worked on learning to be the best parent I could. I read, listened and picked certain areas to really focus on myself. Every little action I took then, made a difference in his life. Parenthood is a huge thing, but the same goes true for other aspects of your life-or so it has for me.

**I prayed for strength
**I prayed for the ability to learn what I needed to
**I prayed for the guidance to be the best parent I could
**I forgave myself when I fell short
**I celebrated the successes

My son is a healthy, happy 22 year old now. I still try to be the best I can be. Afterall, I'll always be a Mom.

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Walk, Walk, Walk!

2009-09-25T00:01:00.000-07:00

Well, my avid readers and new readers alike: If you don't already know it, you'll soon learn that I love to walk. I've never been a runner, perhaps because of my body type. I'll just let it go at that. I love walking because it is

Good for my Body
Keeps me in nature more than I would otherwise
Gives me a wonderful opportunity to Pray Gets those good hormones (endorphins) flowing
and Basically just keeps my day in balance

If you haven't adopted the practice of walking, consider starting-even if little by little and step by step. Walking is an important part of a balanced life. You can even take your meditative practice to the streets! This is called meditative walking, mindfulness walking, and prayerful walking.

However you choose to fit walking into your day, start with good shoes. Your body needs the support.

Choose an appealing route and try to alter your route a bit to avoid getting bored.

Do you like music? I do, and I love my little MP3 player. There really is Joy in Music! I listen to books on tape, dance music, oldies, mellow stuff... It all depends on my mood.

Drink plenty of water. Very important!

Thanks for reading and be sure and visit naturally-holistic.net and pray-with-beads.com!

Loving Acts

2009-09-22T00:01:00.000-07:00

Loving Acts, thoughts and prayers begin in the heart, at home, but the effects ripple infinitely OUTWARD.

What have you really done for yourself and others today?

Learning through Teaching

2009-09-19T00:01:00.000-07:00

Ready to Learn Something New, but Not Sure WHERE to Begin?

There are so many things that I want to do, and so little time. I want to learn to play guitar, work out more often, eat healthier, learn TaiChi, practice yoga more often, try out new recipes, create 2010 jewelry collection, play with my dogs more and...

One of my favorite words, because it pertains to me so much, is FOCUS. I like to set goals and try to focus so that I'm not overwhelmed by my long list of things to do.

Okay, so what about that deep, driving desire to do more, learn more or do something different? Have you ever thought that you must do something different, but you aren't sure where to begin? I sure do!

Teach What you Know, and you'll discover what you are really ready to learn next.

What are you good at?

Who might benefit from your talents, skills or knowledge?

Contemplate on your next steps. It is in this quiet contemplation that your intuition (the voice of God) will be heard.

Try journaling to tap into that intuition even more. I've written several pages about journaling because I think keeping a spirit journal can be very helpful.

Let it Go

2009-09-16T00:01:00.000-07:00

Let go and let God

This pertains to letting go of 'stuff' also. We are in the process of doing a little 'facelift' in our home and I can't believe how much stuff we've accumulated! It was only 3 1/2 years ago that we moved across country and really trimmed down to make the move. How in the world did we accumulate so much stuff that we don't need? We probably didn't think enough about what we DO have and not enough about what we DON'T need.

Let go of what you don't need; Make space for what you do want-peace, calm and quiet! There you will find God.

Prayer and The Flu?

2009-09-12T15:29:00.000-07:00

Well, the flu season is upon us. Actually, as someone who works in a busy clinic, I can tell you that the flu season has been going on. There is a lot of anxiety out there about the seasonal flu, H1N1 flu, also known as swine flu and what we can do about it.

When people ask me what they can do to avoid getting sick, I give them some guidance on how to stay healthy. Afterall, the best defense is to be as healthy as you can so your body can fight off any unwanted visitors-such as viruses.

I've written quite a bit about the flu and colds and so on on naturally-holistic.net, and I'm sure I'll be updating it as the season goes on. The center for disease control has the latest and the greatest. Be sure and visit there, too.

So, my friends-let's get healthy!

1. Drink plenty of water. Remember you can also find water in fruits, vegetables, soups and so on.

2. Get plenty of Rest. It is essential for our bodies to get sleep-rejuvinate and refresh. This isn't just lip service-SLEEP is a requirement.

3. Eat a healthy diet. If you aren't sure where to begin, start right here. Most of us have to work at this this, so if you feel like it is a lot of work, you are right. Eating junk is easy. No supplement can make up for healthy eating. If you can't eat right, take your vitamins. I'm so busy in our little clinic that sometimes I barely make it to the bathroom, much less take time to eat stress free. I do try to make up for it the next day and try to watch my stress level.

4. Take time to pray. Prayer can help us become stress resistant and tolerant of life's ups and downs. There are so many more reasons to pray and so many ways to pray! Prayer is part of a healthy life.

5. Carry your prayer beads with you. I do this so that I can just reach into my pocket when things get tense-AND they do get tense!

6. Try to stay as stress resistant as possible. There is always stress, but how you address is it will make the difference.

7. Remember those 'unwanted visitors' I mentioned earlier. Avoid them!

Wash your Hands often. Try singing Mary Had a Little Lamb (outloud or in your head) when you wash your hands to be sure you wash for long enough.

Avoid touching your eyes, nose, and mouth as these are ways those viruses can find their way in

If you cough or sneeze, try to do so into your elbow or sleeve rather than letting them fly into the air.

Avoid people who are sick, if you can help it. Viruses like the flu bugs are easily shared.

If you get sick, (fever, body aches, cough...) stay home. Please don't share with others. You could save someone's life.

The flu is terrible, but for people with other health conditions it can be deadly. Take care of your own health and respect the health of others. There is no need to panic, but it is important to be wide aware.

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What are You Waiting For?

2009-09-12T14:05:00.000-07:00

Have you ever thought about how much time we spend waiting?

We wait for the alarm to go off in the morning to tell us when the awake part of our day should begin
We wait for the coffee to be ready to drink
We wait for the water to warm before we step into the shower
We wait in line at the grocery store
Okay, well you get the picture, I'm sure.

Sometimes we know exactly what we're waiting for and other times we have no idea what is ahead of us. I particularly enjoy waiting for 'something' to happen and trying to avoid expectations. How difficult is this, though?

It is more human to envision the future, think about the past and sometimes even stop and enjoy the present.

Is your prayer life spent in hopeful waiting, with high expectations or simple open heartedness?

In Truth We Pray for a Variety of Reasons:

With a Goal in mind

For Comfort

To Connect with God

For Miracles

For Hope

Today I stopped to enjoy the day. It is raining, but since we're in a draught, the rain is particularly beautiful. My prayer for today was about thankfulness-a simply acknowledgement of the beauty with gratitude. How perfect is that?

What are You waiting for?

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Hang On Loosely

2009-09-02T00:01:00.000-07:00

Remember this song by 38 Special? I loved it in the 80s and still do. The temptation to play Gos is one of the temptations of the vision board, affirmation and even creative imagery.
Alan Cohen (Handle with Prayer, 1998) says, "never try to force the object of your prayer into manifestation." You can't do it anyway and if you try, you'll simply create more obstacles for yourself. hmmm- Seems I do this sometimes!

Where does it all come from? God, of course. Therefore our relationship with God and an attitude of co-creation is the key. Hey, that is worth reading again!

How?
Focus on your goal-not how you'll get there. Are you a control freak? I'm not a freak for control, but I'm human and like to have an idea of how things will go-a plan. I have to remind myself that God's plan is better than my own. Maybe you've heard this before: Let Go and Let God.

This is what I'm trying to do for myself:

Stop Complaining and focus instead on the dream vision
Be as clear as you can-even write a list
Review it as often as you need to
Be happy-your vision is on its way
Create a nice place you can call your own sacred space
Pray for the guidance to let go and have faith more often in your life
Take better care of myself. Have you seen my weight loss blog? It is about more than just weight loss, of course.
Use the tools that might help you-
See where you are and remember that the obstacles are there to help you grow
Use the simple things to re-focus- Imagery, Vision Boards, Meditation, Prayer, Prayer Beads, Walking or other exercise, Affirmations, and simple Breathing. These are simple things that don't take a lot of time (and they don't cost any $$), but can make a world of difference. I also like to journal, and thank you all for sharing in my own healing!

Big Dreams? Big Frustrations?

2009-08-30T00:01:00.000-07:00

Do you have Big Dreams and the Big Frustrations that go along with those dreams? Well, you are in good company! Things don't go the way we want them to-not 100% anyway. I kind of like the excitement of wondering what is going to happen next, although I really get excited when things go the way I imagined.

What do Successful People Have in Common?
Those who are truly happy and successful see themselves as director of their own lives. They've got full support from God, according to their own beliefs. They hold tight to their vision. They also know to hang on loosely, as the old 38 Special song goes. The vision is bigger than the tiny pieces. Frustration and distraction are there for a reason, so be grateful.

What can you do if you feel more Frustration than Joy?
I'm feeling this way today! I'm a bit overwhelmed and my computer is acting up. My husband and I began a 'simple' bathroom face lift to find lots of mold and standing water underneath. Nothing simple or inexpensive about that. I worked 70 hours last week to help pay for it and my husband is feeling bad about it all. So, this is perfect for me to write about today! I need the reminders, for sure.

Take some time and remember your vision-your goal.
Be Grateful
See where you are and remember that the obstacles are there to help you grow
Use the simple things to re-focus- Imagery, Vision Boards, Meditation, Prayer, Prayer Beads, Walking or other exercise, Affirmations, and simple Breathing. These are simple things that don't take a lot of time (and they don't cost any $$), but can make a world of difference. I also like to journal, and thank you all for sharing in my own healing!

EVEN More about Saints

2009-08-27T00:01:00.000-07:00

Why Do We Like to be Surrounded with Candles, Photos... of Saints?
Some may believe that having statues, photos and so on of Saints is idolatry. Certain saints touch our hearts for various reasons. Perhaps you have something in common with one of the saints. For instance, I can relate to Saint Francis of Assisi. He was a very interesting man. Among many things, he is known for his love of animals. Some of us surround ourselves with photos of loved ones or our favorite places. They bring us a sense of peace, bring on fond memories or remind us of why we work so hard. We don't 'worship' those people and places, but we still like to have them around. Some feel the same way about their favorite saints.

Do Catholics pray TO saints?
Catholics pray with saints, not to them.
Why? Because we trust that the saint understands us and our issues. We choose the saint that fits our particular life situation. We ask them to pray for us. Certainly by definition, saints led holy lives and are close to God in heaven. Who better to ask to pray for us?

Why Should We Become Familiar with Saints
Saints give us a great example to follow. The more we know about their lives, the more we can learn about living a truly holy life. It can be very inspiring to read about the lives of saints, especially during rough times. The church also expects that we will be familiar with the lives of saints and what those lives can teach us. This in turn can help us to be better people.

Being Better People: What a wonderful goal!

More about Saints

2009-08-23T00:01:00.000-07:00

Exactly how many saints are there?

There are no definitive numbers for us, however there are over 10,000 named saints according to Roman Martyology and Orthodox sources.

When did the Church start honoring saints?

You might think that the church actually started naming saints, but early saints were actually named by Christians who honored other Christians who had died. Praying (asking) for their intercession was actually a part of the Church from the beginning. Some think it came about later, but history tells us otherwise. In the Jewish faith, prophets and holy people were honored with shrines. As stated before, early saints were martyrs. They gave up their lives for their Faith in the persecution of Christians.

We love to be surrounded with saint memoribilia, don't we? Candles, photos, little statues and even big statues. Why is this? The next blog entry will answer this for you or you can go direction to pray with beads website for more information right now!

So, You Want to be a Saint?

2009-08-20T00:01:00.000-07:00

Pope John Paul, II made some big changes to the canonization process in 1983. Now, the canonization process doesn't actually begin until after the death of someone a Catholic person regards as truly holy. The process may not even begin until well after death. So, what are the canonization steps?

Do you have what it takes to be a Saint? Let's see...

It all begins at home. After being 'nominated,' a local bishop investigates the candidate's life and writings for heroic virtue (or martyrdom) and orthodoxy of doctrine. This can be a lengthy process, of course. But, let's say you pass. Go to step 2...
A panel of religion experts at the Vatican evaluates the candidate. Once again, this can be a length process.
There is a panel with cardinals of the Congregation for the Causes of Saints who must approve the sainthood nominee. At this point, the pope can proclaim the candidate "venerable." A venerable candidate means that they have either been martyred or had exercised Christian virtues to a heroic degree. Is the process complete? Nope-read on...
The next step is call 'Beatification.' Just when you think your nominee is ready to become a saint, you've got to prove one miracle- except in the case of martyrs. What about this miracle? This miracle must occur after the candidate’s death and as a result of a specific petition to the candidate.

So, it is easy to get caught up in the steps, but remember that God chooses saints.

The Title of Saint Tells Us:
A Saint lived a holy life.
The Saint is in Heaven and is to be honored by the universal Church.
The process of Canonization process does not MAKE a person a saint. The process simply recognizes what God has already done.

I can think of a few people in my life who would qualify as a saint-as far as I am concerned, anyway. In reality, you can probably gather just how long it takes for the canonization process. Imagine just how many truly holy people simply haven't been through the canonization process.

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How to Become a Saint

2009-08-17T00:01:00.000-07:00

Who Chooses Saints?
Starting with the first martyrs of the early church and for hundreds of years, the public chose saints. (God makes saints, but the church recognizes saints.) You can probably imagine how many interesting stories and n legends the 'public' needed to sort through in order to determine who really qualified as a saint.

Communication isn't like what we have now, after all. There was also the issue of defining the criteria for sainthood. In the tenth century, the church (starting with bishops and eventually the Vatican) started choosing saints.

Canonization is the process the church uses to name saints.
Pope John Paul, II made some big changes to the canonization process in 1983. Now, the canonization process doesn't actually begin until after the death of someone a Catholic person regards as truly holy. The process may not even begin until well after death.

So, what are the canonization steps?

You can read all about it on the next post of this blog or go right to pray with beads website now to learn it all!

Saints and Martyrs

2009-08-14T00:01:00.000-07:00

Roman Catholic Saints
Saints and Martyrs

Our own union with God makes us more like Saints than we may realize. Grace gives us all the potential to become saints. In fact, if we don’t aim for it, we lose out. The saints of the early church were martyrs. Martyrs are men and women who died for their faith. How did this come about? Christians began to remember the dates of the martyrs’ deaths as their birthday into heaven, visit their tombs to ask for their intercession, write their stories, and enroll their names on lists called martyrologies. When the persecutions subsided, around the fourth century, the church started to recognize women and men who had not been martyred, but who would have given their lives for Christ had they had the chance. Over the next six centuries, holy virgins, monks, lay theologians, widows, priests, and bishops had their names added to the lists of saints.

This brings up the big question: Who Chooses Saints?

You can wait until the next blog to learn about this or you can read all about it today at pray-with-beads website.

My New Weight Loss Blog

2009-08-11T11:00:00.001-07:00

Anybody else out there trying to lose weight?

There are healthy ways to lose weight without losing your mind!

Follow me as I lose those last 15 pounds and then maintain that weight loss.

Along the way, I'm sure there will be many life lessons to learn, and if you follow any of my blogs or websites, you know it'll be way more than simple weight loss.

Please visit my new blog-Weight loss-those last 15 pounds and join in. Let's all help one another.

What is it about Saints?

2009-08-11T00:01:00.000-07:00

Roman Catholic Saints
Why Are We So Intrigued?

Why are we so intrigued by saints? Because we know that if a mortal human being can achieve saint status in their lives, so can we! They have something special about them (and each is unique) that sets them apart, but then again, so do we.

They’ve climbed to the greatest heights and are very worthy of our admiration. As you read through these pages, you’ll see just how admirable, special and yet ordinary in many ways these saints are.

Having a strong life purpose is one quality-a big quality-that distinguishes saints from most of us. What is the life purpose of a saint? To be a saint! This compelling desire for sanctity motivated all the saints, and their resolve invited a divine touch. However, determination alone does not create saints. God makes saints. The word ‘Saint’ comes from a Latin root that means “holy” or “reserved for God.” It is the presence of the divine in human beings causes them to be holy and transforms them into saints.

Roman Catholic Saints: Saints and Martyrs

See next post or you can read much more about Saints right now on the Pray with Beads website.

Journal Ideas to Help You Get Started

2009-08-08T00:01:00.000-07:00

Are you ready to start your journal, but still not quite sure where to begin? That's okay. I know what that is like. I know of some fun ways to start, though.

Let's start by thinking about some of those basic spiritual needs. Some spiritual needs are to be loved, humor, connectedness, and belief in something greater than ourselves. there are more, so be sure and take a look. I like to review them once in a while because I find that I'm sometimes so far off course that I don't even realize it anymore. Can you relate?

Knowing yourself and living according to your values is a part of spiritual well being (having those spiritual needs met). We get a little or a lot bogged down sometimes because we find ourselves in circumstances that don't feel right for us because we follow the ebb and flow of life without really feeling. It is much easier to sleep through life then to contemplate. It is even more difficult to follow the guidance or intuition we get. Afterall, if, for instance, you live in a big luxurious home that you worked very hard for and yet you find yourself driven to live a simple, uncomplicated life in the mountains, would it be difficult to change everything? For many of us, it would. Perhaps the feeling of knowing you are living true to yourself would be enough.

So, how can you explore who you really are? What do you value-really value? This means you've got to let go of what others think, unless, of course you value what others think more than you value youself.

Begin by spending as much time as you need to reach a relaxed state. You might go for a prayer walk, pick up those prayer beads, sit in quiet meditation, do some imagery or whatever you like.
List the numbers 1-20 on paper. You can list more if you want, and this is a good idea. Write the words 'I am' or 'I want,' or any other words that feel right to you. Without really thinking, just start writing.

Examples:
I am 50
I am a writer
I am lonely

Keep going. Be careful to avoid editing-whatever you write is supposed to be there. Editing won't really be true. The idea is to get to a meditative state and allow the words to flow from somewhere other than just your thinking brain. I know that sounds a little 'out there' but you'll see what I mean when you try this.
When you are done, take a look at what you have written. How many of the items are about your body, your faith, your emotions, your talents...
Now, journal about what you learned about yourself!

This is just one little trick to get the creative juices flowing. Be sure and take a look at my full webpage on pray-with-beads.com devoted to nifty ideas to help you be successful at journaling.

Spirit Journal and Your Spiritual Life

2009-08-05T00:01:00.000-07:00

Journaling can enhance your spiritual life in many ways.

God is everythwere if we just look around.

Start by writing a simple gratitude journal-just write down 5-10 things (everyday) you are grateful for. You'll seen begin to see God in places you didn't notice before. Also, 5-10 things is just a start. Before you know it, you'll list will grow and grow and grow-so will your inspiration.

God is reflected in our surroundings. Is your home sacred ground? Does it support your health and well-being? How about your work space and community? I took this photo when I was in Boston. The trip was a treat for me and very special. I fell in love with this home. My own home is a sacred place, too. Write about your home-what you like, what would make it more special...
How is your health? Is your body the temple of your spirit? There is a lot to be said for and about physical health? I've devoted over 200 pages to natural, holistic health, so be sure and take a look. There are many pages with simple, quick and easy first steps, so don't be afraid. www.naturally-holistic.net is the place to go! Meanwhile, you can journal about the steps you plan to take toward your best health. There is even a new blog on my site about my own healthy weight journey. You don't need to write a website, though. (Did I say that I'm an over-achiever?) Simply start your Spirit Journal!
Do you live on purpose? Having purpose and meaning in our lives are just a few of our spiritual needs. We all must have this. People with a purpose-and it doesn't have to be grandiose, by the way, are much happier. Write about what you think your purpose might be. What is important and gives you meaning? Does prayer bring purpose and meaning to your life? Write, write, write...
What about relationships and connections? Connectedness is also a spiritual need-in other needs, we need a sense of connectedness for survival. Learning to pray with beads can help you gain a sense of connectedness. Click here to learn more about this interesting topic. Meanwhile, relationships are usually easy for us to write about due to the emotional connection.
Are you creative at all? I'm sure you are, even if you don't realize it. Creativity is another of our spiritual needs! Who would have guessed? Think about how you are creative.

Do you garden, play music, write poetry, design your home, cook...? Write about this and maybe even set some goals. Start with an inspiration and just let your pen do the writing.

How Writing a Journal Can Change Your Life

Writing can be very meditative. Pretty soon you won't have to think about it-the inspiration will just flow through you. This is incredibly powerful, because when you stop thinking, you'll soon be able to hear what God has to say to you. So, pick up that pen, write and just see what happens.

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Spirit Journal: Start Yours Today in 5 Easy Steps Steps 3-5

2009-08-03T00:01:00.000-07:00

3. Create a Ritual

If you create a ritual, you'll begin to associate the peace and tranquility and clear thought with your journal. Create your own ritual! You can personalize any or all:

Pen and paper (or medium of your choice)

Where will you sit? Chair, pillow, inside, outside...
What beads will you hold and have nearby? I, of course, have many that I love. Sometimes it is a shape that inspires me and other times it is a color or design. Choose your own! Visit my store to choose the perfect ones for yourself. We all deserve a treat once in awhile, and I make each one special.
Music

Special place-somewhere outside or will you create your own sacred space

How often: daily, weekly...

Open your journal with a prayer, psalm, song, poem, affirmation or whatever inspires you.

Turn off your phone and give yourself some uninterrupted time

4. Shake it up a bit-don't get bored. Change the color of ink, add some photos or drawings, use unique pens and have fun!

5. Last, but not least-a few Simple Rules

Write what inspires you

Don't edit-if you write it, it belongs there. Avoid analyzing and unless that improper grammar or spelling will just drive you nuts, let it go.

Okay, time to get started! You can read even more pointers at pray-with-beads.com!

Spirit Journal: Start YOURS in 5 easy steps

2009-08-01T00:01:00.000-07:00

Your First Two Steps

1. Choose your journal. Okay, this is fun!
Your journal can be a spiral notebook, holed paper, lined or not lined, colored or white, small or large, pretty or plain... I'm sure you've got the picture. I enjoy this part because I like the variety. I even like to purchase journals when I'm on vacation as momentos. I purchased a beautiful multi-colored textured one when I was in Boston. I started it there, and it'll always be special becasue the trip was special.

Can't decide? No problem because you can keep a variety of journals all at one time. Is this an advanced skill or just an over-achiever's dream? It doesn't really matter! I've got journals that I use for lists, others that I jot down ideas for my websites, and yet others for my personal thoughts.

2. Identify and Protect
You might remember having a diary. Maybe it even had a lock on it. There is a good reason for this! The journal is yours and yours alone. Most spirit journals are not meant to be shared. You need to be feel confident that you can be open and honest and not be judged.

Skip your first page-just leave it blank. On the second page, you can write something like: 'This journal belongs to _______. Please do not read without my permission.'
Just in case your nosy reader can't resist, on the third page write something like: You know you aren't supposed to be reading this. Please stop now!
Don't promote temptation: keep it somewhere safe and secure. If you leave it sitting out, someone will pick it up. We're only human, afterall.

Read to move on to Steps 3-5? Visit here to view right now, or stay tuned for future blog posts.

Spirit Journal and Intuition

2009-07-30T00:01:00.000-07:00

How are you doing with your own journaling? Whether you've started or not, there is still more to learn!

Keeping a journal is a great way to actually receive intuition-that inner knowing. Some even beleive that intuition is the guidance we receive from spirit.

What? How can anybody tap God's wisdom simply by writing?

Writing, by just letting your thoughts and emotions pour out with no editing and no real specific goals is the big secret. This is the simple beauty of journaling. You'll find that as your pen moves, soon the thoughts-even new and maybe even surprising to you begin to pour out.

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Spirit Journal: Why to Start Now

2009-07-28T00:01:00.000-07:00

Where else can you be an Observer in your own Life?

One of our human challenges revolves around 'purpose.'

What is your purpose in life?
How is your life meaningful?

Huge questions-right?

Keeping a journal can help you to clarify your present, vision your unique future, set goals and even create a pathway so those dreams can come true.

I started keeping a journal when I was in high school. I remember writing more than what would be considered a 'diary.' Writing my thoughts helped me to get more clear about what I wanted to do, and how I felt about events and people in my life. I have continued my journal writing since then (30 years!), and I certainly consider the practice an integral part of my spiritual growth.

My spirit journal is filled with events that were profound (to me anyway), ordinary happenings, times when someone touched my heart, times I felt like I failed, frustrations, joys and sometimes just plain rambling.

Journaling showed so much for me, cleared my thoughts and helped me to release emotions. I also found that I slept great even after 5-10 minutes of journal time.

There are many more posts coming out soon, but if you don't want to wait and you want to read more-just click here!

Lung Cancer, Blacks & Spirituality

2009-07-26T00:01:00.000-07:00

Blacks Less Likely to Get Optimal Lung Cancer Treatment
MONDAY, April 13 (HealthDay News) -- Black patients with lung cancer are less likely than white patients to receive recommended chemotherapy and surgery, a new study finds.

Disparities in lung cancer treatments were as large in 2002 as they were back in the early 1990s, even though there have been efforts to decrease those inequalities in treatment, the study said.

"This study shows what most of the previous research has shown -- that disparities in treatment patterns [still exist] between blacks and whites," said Katherine S. Virgo, director of health services research the American Cancer Society, who was not involved in the study.

The findings were published online April 13 in the journal Cancer.

For the study, Dale Hardy, of the University of Texas School of Public Health, and colleagues collected data on 83,101 people 65 and older with non-small cell lung cancer -- the most common form of lung cancer -- between 1991 and 2002.

The researchers found that blacks with early-stage cancer were 37 percent less likely to receive recommended surgery and 42 percent less likely to receive recommended chemotherapy, compared with whites.

Among patients with later-stage lung cancer, blacks were 57 percent less likely to receive recommended chemotherapy than whites.

The researchers speculated that there may be several reasons for the disparities in care: Blacks are less likely to get an accurate diagnosis and get recommendations for surgery, but blacks are also more likely to decline surgery, the study authors said.

There also may be cultural differences, the researchers said. For example, many blacks distrust the health-care system. Also, blacks tend to rely on prayer and alternative healing and believe that "when your time is up, it is up," the researchers said.

"In addition, blacks are most often seen at county hospitals, which often provide lower quality medical therapy," Hardy's group noted.

"In conclusion, there were substantial disparities in receiving recommended treatments between blacks and whites, and these disparities have been relatively stable during the past 12 years," the study authors wrote. "To reduce disparities in receipt of treatment for non-small cell lung cancer, efforts should focus on providing appropriate quality treatment and educating blacks on the value of having these treatments."

Virgo said disparities in treatment between blacks and whites are common for a number of diseases and conditions. "This is not something that is specific to non-small cell lung cancer," she said.

More information

For more on lung cancer, visit the American Cancer Society.

SOURCES: Katherine S. Virgo, Ph.D., M.B.A., director, Health Services Research, American Cancer Society, Atlanta; April 13, 2009, Cancer
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Spirit Journal-What is it?

2009-07-23T00:01:00.000-07:00

Journaling is simply the act of communicating with yourself. Those thoughts, ideas, daydreams, worries... that float around your head are simply put on paper in one form or another. You might choose to write, keep a video/DVD journal or record your journal on tape

Keeping a journal will:

help you to discover things about yourself

focus your concentraton

Spark creativity and ideas

explore and/or release emotions

be a safe, reliable and always available confidant

be an important part of your spiritual growth and awareness

forgive yourself and others

write/tell the truth

gain insight

Where else can you be an observer in your own life?

Would you like to learn more about journaling? There will be more posts, but you don't have to wait!

All about Journaling!

Cancer and Complimentary Medicine

2009-07-21T00:01:00.000-07:00

August 04, 2008

Many Cancer Patients Turn to Complementary Medicine
MONDAY, Aug. 4 (HealthDay News) -- As many as 61 percent of cancer patients use complementary therapies such as prayer, relaxation, meditation and massage, researchers from the American Cancer Society report.

This new study echoes findings of other, smaller studies that also found that many cancer patients use complementary treatments. The kinds of methods used were influenced by sex, race, age, education, type of cancer and how far the disease has spread.

"Many complementary methods are extremely popular among cancer survivors, who are spending a lot of their time, money and attention on them," said study co-author Dr. Ted Gansler, the society's director of medical content. "For this reason, it is important to determine which are helpful, not only for shrinking tumors and extending survival, but also for relieving symptoms and improving quality of life."

For the study, published in the Sept. 1 issue of Cancer, Gansler's team collected data on 4,139 cancer survivors who participated in the American Cancer Society's Study of Cancer Survivors-I. The people were interviewed 10 to 24 months after diagnosis.

The use of some complementary methods by cancer survivors is very common, the study found. For example, 61.4 percent used prayer; 44.3 percent used relaxation techniques; 42.4 percent used faith/spiritual healing; 40.1 percent used nutritional supplements such as vitamins; 15 percent used meditation; 11.3 percent used religious counseling; 11.2 percent used massage; and 9.7 percent participated in support groups.

But other complementary methods aren't as common, the researchers found. Only 0.4 percent of survey participants used hypnosis; 1 percent used biofeedback therapy; and 1.2 percent used acupressure or acupuncture.

All types of complementary methods were more popular among women, Gansler said. Fifty-nine percent of women and 43 percent of men turned to methods such as aromatherapy, art therapy, support groups, hypnosis, imagery/visualization, meditation and relaxation.

And methods such as tai chi and yoga were used by 10.1 percent of women, compared with 1.9 percent of men. Massage was used by 16.6 percent of women, but only 3.9 percent of men, the study found.

"In general, younger, more educated and more affluent cancer survivors were more likely to use complementary methods," Gansler said. "People with more advanced cancer were more likely to be complementary-method users."

And, complementary methods are much more popular among breast and ovarian cancer survivors, Gansler said.

"This is not only because ovarian cancer is obviously limited to women and breast cancer is extremely rare among men. For example, all types of complementary methods were used more often by breast and ovarian cancer survivors than by uterine cancer survivors -- also women, of course," he said.

It's not clear why complementary methods are used more often by women with breast and ovarian cancer, Gansler added.

It's also not clear just how much benefit complementary therapies might confer, he said. "Scientific studies of complementary methods have become much more common during the past few years, but there is still a lot of uncertainty about the effectiveness of many complementary methods," he added.

"As more studies are done to evaluate effectiveness, we will want to know whether men are missing opportunities to use some effective complementary methods that are far more popular in women, or whether women use ineffective complementary methods more than men. Or whether some complementary methods are more effective for women than they are for men," Gansler said.

Alternative medicine expert Dr. Harold Burstein, an instructor in the Department of Medicine at Harvard Medical School, said, "This study, like many before it, confirms that cancer patients actively pursue a variety of alternative and complementary therapies, usually in conjunction with standard approaches to cancer treatment."

The motivations for such practices are worth exploring, Burstein said. "It is not known, but it is not thought that these have an impact on cancer-related outcomes, though many patients report deriving comfort, solace or symptom relief with such practices," he said.

More information

For more on complementary medicine, visit the U.S. National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine.

Are You a Human Being or a Human Doing?

2009-07-19T00:01:00.000-07:00

This is a funny question, isn't it? You are a Human Being, of course! I have to wonder about myself, sometimes.

I get so busy doing this and doing this other thing, and oh, yeah-doing something else, too-I forget to just BE!

Can you relate?

It seems that there is so much stock in how much we accomplish that how we are and are very 'being' is lost in the shuffle.

How often do you just sit and be with God?

How often do you just sit and be with yourself?

How often do you just sit and be with the ones you love and who love you?

Is there anything you can do that is more imporant than this?

I received a rather upsetting email from upper management at work the other day. It was basically an email sent out to many of us about how we need to do more. Prior to this many people left and the ones left really worked hard to keep things going. We sacrificed our own family life for the business (a very important business, but still). Nobody wanted to hear that it wasn't good enough. When I read the rather lengthy note, I was mostly angry at myself for choosing to 'do' for others who obviously didn't appreciate my offerings and not be present for the ones who mean so much to me-including myself.

I choose today to begin my life as a human being and put doing second on the list.

I vow to spend more time in quiet contemplation and prayer.
I vow to meditate on the beauty around me and to be quiet long enough to hear the words of God.
I vow to act more loving to those I love so much rather than be busy with nonsense.

I vow to be a loving Human Being, which is probably what life is all about afterall.

Repetitive Prayer and the Mysteries of Faith

2009-07-15T00:01:00.000-07:00

Contemplating the Mysteries of Faith is another way to form patterns of prayer.

Contemplating the Mysteries in prayer is one way to honor and learn to imitate in life the Mysteries and the Virtues of the life, death, passion, and glory of Jesus and Mary.

Contemplating the mysteries is another way to get closer to the Lord.

The Mysteries are the Sorrowful Mysteries, the Luminous Mysteries, the Glorious Mysteries and the Joyful Mysteries.

Contemplation of the Mysteries is part of the traditional rosary prayer, also. Contemplation on the Mysteries is certainly not reserved for Catholics, however.

Choose a Mystery for each day of the week or each prayer session and keep with this pattern. Your actual prayers may or may not be repetitive, but you are focused on a specific pattern-in this case the Mystery. Routine can be a very comforting and important part of your prayer and spiritual life.

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Repetitive Prayer

2009-07-12T00:01:00.000-07:00

Do your prayers have patterns? If not, you may want to consider trying prayer with a pattern. Catholics who pray the traditional rosary have a pattern to their prayer. Repeated prayer brings about meditative, contemplative thoughts and truly opens the communication with God.

Have you ever noticed that when you are lost in reptitive acts such as doing the dishes, you find the greatest inspiration? Your thoughts are clear and new ideas just seem to flow. Other repetitive practices such as sewing, knitting, beading and other needlework will do this also. Repeating prayers with an intention also accomplishes the same wonderful results.

Some find repetitive prayer far more than 'free style.' You'll just have to find out for yourself, though. It isn't a practice reserved for Catholics. Your prayer life is your own. If you've never practiced repetitive prayer, it is certainly worth a try. Repating a mantra or affirmation can bring about the same effect. You can reach that wonderful prayerful meditative state which allows you to stop long enough to listen to God. Prayer is a two way street-you talk to God and you listen to God. Sometimes we forget to stop and listen.

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What Makes a Good Prayer?

2009-07-09T00:01:00.000-07:00

I'm going to give you a little guidance about saying a 'good' prayer, but ultimately a good prayer is one that leaves you filled with God's love-joy, contentment and peace. Ah, sounds so nice, doesn't it?

Okay-so let's talk Structure of a good prayer.

Some praise or gratitude is key. If you don't stop and recognize God's beauty around you, you can't praise Him.
Consider keeping a gratitude journal to help open your eyes to the many wonders around you. Begin with 3 things you are grateful for-EVERY day. That is a great start to a prayer.

Example: Heavenly Father, today I noticed beautiful Fall colors and it brought to mind memories of me as a child filled with the excitement of the first day of school. You are generous. Thank you for the beauty in my life.

Journaling is a great way to open your heart. Learn all about Journaling for the Spirit.

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Creating a Place to Pray

2009-07-06T00:01:00.000-07:00

Okay, so you've made prayer a priority and you've got it on your 'To Do' list.

Now, look for a distraction-free zone. This is the case whether your prayer is alone or in a group.

No phones

No texts messages

No TV

No interruptions

You can set aside some time in your home, outside in your car, at work or even on the bus (this would most likely be silent prayer, but it is up to you). Spontaneous prayer can be anywhere, of course.

I've got my beads in my pocket or my purse to remind me where my focus should be. It is instantly calming.

Is prayer with beads new to you? It's actually an ancient practice that can work miracles in today's world. Take a look at www.pray-with-beads.com to learn much, much more and even order your own set of beads.

You can even create your own little sacred place. This could be outside in nature or you can create your own space at home. I have a little table with some items that mean something to me. You can add candles, music... This is my little place. You can have fun creating your own!

Time to Pray

2009-07-03T00:01:00.000-07:00

Do you make time to pray?

Many of us don't, however most, who believe in the power of prayer, would agree that it should be one of the priorities of life like brushing your teeth, eating your veggies and getting enough sleep.

Perhaps we are not satisfied because we don't really set aside a specific time to pray. Do you have a To-Do list? Do you write daily activities on a white board, keep lists on a bulletin board or for the more high tech ones (like me!) keep lists on your fancy phones or PDAs. Even so, there are things that just don't get done because our To-Do lists are longer than our day will allow.

The Bible has many references to Jesus and Prayer. He planned to pray and he also knew when the spontaneous prayers were needed.

If prayer is going to happen in your life, you may need to put it on your To Do list.

Make prayer a priority

Get up a little earlier (even 5 minutes) to allow for some morning prayer time

Work prayer into your break time at work, after dinner or just before bedtime

Where and when you pray isn't as important as making it a routine.

You can read more helpful hints at www.pray-with-beads.com

Rewind Stress Genes!

2009-07-01T00:01:00.000-07:00

Meditation, Yoga Might Switch Off Stress Genes

Study suggests explanation for these practices' health benefits.
By Amanda GardnerHealthDay Reporter

(HealthDay News) -- Researchers say they've taken a significant stride forward in understanding how relaxation techniques such as meditation, prayer and yoga improve health: by changing patterns of gene activity that affect how the body responds to stress.

The changes were seen both in long-term practitioners and in newer recruits, the scientists said.
"It's not all in your head," said Dr. Herbert Benson, president emeritus of the Benson-Henry Institute for Mind/Body Medicine at Massachusetts General Hospital and an associate professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School. "What we have found is that when you evoke the relaxation response, the very genes that are turned on or off by stress are turned the other way. The mind can actively turn on and turn off genes. The mind is not separated from the body."

One outside expert agreed.

"It's sort of like reverse thinking: If you can wreak havoc on yourself with lifestyle choices, for example, [in a way that] causes expression of latent genetic manifestations in the negative, then the reverse should hold true," said Dr. Gerry Leisman, director of the F.R. Carrick Institute for Clinical Ergonomics, Rehabilitation and Applied Neuroscience at Leeds Metropolitan University in the U.K.

"Biology is not entirely our destiny, so while there are things that give us risk factors, there's a lot of 'wiggle' in this," added Leisman, who is also a professor at the University of Haifa in Israel. "This paper is pointing that there is a technique that allows us to play with the wiggle."
Benson, a pioneer in the field of mind-body medicine, is co-senior author of the new study, which is published in the journal PLoS One.

Benson first described the relaxation response 35 years ago. Mind-body approaches that elicit the response include meditation, repetitive prayer, yoga, tai chi, breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, biofeedback, guided imagery and Qi Gong.

"Previously, we had noted that there were scores of diseases that could be treated by eliciting the relaxation response -- everything from different kinds of pain, infertility, rheumatoid arthritis, insomnia," Benson said.

He believes that this study is the first comprehensive look at how mind states can affect gene expression. It also focuses on gene activity in healthy individuals.

Benson and his colleagues compared gene-expression patterns in 19 long-term practitioners, 19 healthy controls and 20 newcomers who underwent eight weeks of relaxation-response training.
More than 2,200 genes were activated differently in the long-time practitioners relative to the controls and 1,561 genes in the short-timers compared to the long-time practitioners. Some 433 of the differently activated genes were shared among short-term and long-term practitioners.
Further genetic analysis revealed changes in cellular metabolism, response to oxidative stress and other processes in both short- and long-term practitioners. All of these processes may contribute to cellular damage stemming from chronic stress.

Another expert had a mixed response to the findings.
Robert Schwartz, director of the Texas A&M Health Science Center's Institute of Biosciences and Technology in Houston, noted that the study was relatively small. He also wished that there had been more data on the levels of stress hormones within the control group, for comparison purposes.

However, Schwartz called the study "unique and very exciting. It demonstrates that all these techniques of relaxation response have a biofeedback mechanism that alters gene expression."
He pointed out that the researchers looked at blood cells, which consist largely of immune cells. "You're getting the response most probably in the immune cell population," Schwartz said.
"We all are under stress and have many manifestations of that stress," Benson added. "To adequately protect ourselves against stress, we should use an approach and a technique that we believe evokes the relaxation response 20 minutes, once a day."

More information
There's more on meditation at Pray-with-Beads.com as well as how prayer and meditation are related.

(SOURCES: Herbert Benson, M.D., president emeritus, Benson-Henry Institute for Mind/Body Medicine, Massachusetts General Hospital, and associate professor of medicine, Harvard Medical School, Cambridge, Mass.; Gerry Leisman, M.D., Ph.D., director, F.R. Carrick Institute for Clinical Ergonomics, Rehabilitation and Applied Neuroscience and professor, neuroscience, Leeds Metropolitan University, U.K. and professor, University of Haifa, Israel; Robert Schwartz, Ph.D., director, Texas A&M Health Science Center Institute of Biosciences and Technology, Houston; PLoS One)

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Your Spiritual Journey

2009-06-29T00:01:00.000-07:00

Where to Begin: Start Your Spiritual Journey Today!

1. Meditate-Try to carve out at least 1 minute twice a day to be still. Do this for a month or so. Even the busiest of us can spare 1 minute, but we sometimes forget, right? Leave yourself little notes until it becomes a habit for you. Give yourself one minute in the morning and one minute in the evening. Then, extend to 2 and then 3 minutes and so on. It is simple, but can make such a huge difference.

2. Part of your spiritual journey will require paying attention. Look for the message in every problem or challenge. Ask yourself, ‘What is Your message for me?’ and ‘What are You here to teach me?’

3. Find like-minded people and friends who can share your spiritual path. Once you make the decision to start down the path, others will be attracted to you, and you’ll notice situations and people you may not have noted before.

The Bible says ‘wherever 2 or 3 are gathered in my name, I am there.’

• Gather in a church or synagogue
• Start a book club
• Gather to simply share laughs and get to know one another
• Come out of yourself

Pay attention to your life! Notice when you are fighting rather than allowing life to flow.

Try to Allow way more often then you Fight. This doesn’t mean giving up or giving in-it simply means to choose your battles wisely. If you find that you struggle a lot, you are probably not where you should be.

What else do you need to know???

Prayer in Crisis-Part II

2009-06-26T00:01:00.000-07:00

This is How We Blossom.

Consider this: Everything that happens and every moment is a Spiritual Moment. You are being guided into becoming who you are meant to become. Being Spiritual means being Alive and awake to the experience of life. There is an inherent understanding that something much richer is going on around us than what we can see.

Have you wondered how to live in the midst of a crisis? Afterall, words are words, but living the day to the day crisis isn't easy. I don't believe it is meant to be easy or we wouldn't really get value out of it.

Crisis Intervention 101

1. Don't fight the fight-instead try relaxing into it. Look for the positives, keep your head up and be grateful for the experience. Ask God to show you what you are supposed to be learning and then sit quietly so you can hear the response. Your prayer will be answered.

2. Be patient. You do not have control over everything.

3. Look for and be grateful for the connections that grow from a crisis. I've noticed when things are uncertain in my place of employment, we tend to be a stronger, more cohesive, caring group.

Spirituality and Health Care

2009-06-24T00:01:00.000-07:00

Spiritual Beliefs Part of Health Care for Some
Most are happy to discuss subject with eye docs, says researcher.
By Serena Gordon
HealthDay Reporter

(HealthDay News) -- Although you might expect the eye doctor's office to be the last place you would have a discussion about spirituality, recent research suggests that most people would appreciate such a conversation.

Almost half of those included in the study attended weekly religious services,, and 82 percent felt that prayer was very important to their sense of well-being, according to the study, which was published in the September issue of the Archives of Ophthalmology.

"Patients were interested in having their physicians ask them about their religion and spirituality. They seemed to crave a personal relationship," said study author Gina Magyar-Russell, an instructor and clinical psychologist in the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine in Baltimore.

However, Magyar-Russell said there are two caveats to the study -- one is that it may hold true only for Christians, and the other is that it may hold true only for those with serious eye disease, because the people included in this study were predominantly Christian and most were losing or had poor vision in one or both eyes.

"Spirituality can affect the physical and emotional health of patients in quite significant ways," said Dr. Harold G. Koenig, a professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Duke University Medical Center.
"If they don't know about their patients' spirituality, then they're practicing medicine without all of the information they need, because [spirituality] can influence the patient's prognosis and compliance," explained Koenig, who is also co-director of Duke's Center for Spirituality, Theology and Health.

The study included 124 consecutive eye clinic patients who completed a questionnaire that included questions about their spirituality. Sixty percent were being seen for vision problems related to diabetes, 15 percent for vein blockages, and the rest were being seen for other eye problems, such as macular degeneration.

Sixty percent were moderately or very worried about their eye problem, and one-third had poor vision in at least one eye.

Seventy-seven percent identified themselves as Christian, while 6 percent were Jewish. Three percent said they were agnostic. Forty-five percent attended weekly religious services, according to the study.
Few -- just 2.4 percent -- believed that God caused their illness. Almost 70 percent felt that God gave them strength to help them be "at peace" with their declining vision.

So, when doctors are actually trained to ask questions about spirituality, what can they do with this information? Magyar-Russell said that if their patients are using religion in a positive way, such as turning to God for support, then doctors can just listen and be supportive. But, if they hear that their patients feel that God is punishing them somehow or they feel abandoned by God, then the physician could refer them to a hospital chaplain or ask them if they have a pastor or priest that they could talk to about these feelings.

"When people are having religious struggles, they die more quickly and are in worse physical health," said Koenig. "When people use religion to help them cope in a positive way, it reduces stress and can affect health in a positive way.

Both Koenig and Magyar-Russell said more physicians need to be trained in giving a proper spiritual evaluation.

"Less than 10 percent of doctors do this in an regular way, even with dying patients, and that's because most haven't been trained," Koenig said.

More information
To learn more about how spirituality might affect your health and why it's important for your doctor to know your feelings, visit the American Academy of Family Physicians' FamilyDoctor Web site.

(SOURCES: Gina Magyar-Russell, Ph.D., instructor and clinical psychologist, department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences, Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, Baltimore; Harold G. Koenig, M.D., professor, psychiatry and behavioral sciences, associate professor, medicine, Duke University Medical Center, and co-director, Center for Spirituality, Theology and Health at Duke, Durham, N.C.; September 2008, Archives of Ophthalmology)

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Prayer in Crisis-Part I

2009-06-21T00:01:00.000-07:00

What is the value in a crisis?

Many of us are experiencing some sort of a crisis right now whether it is financial or professional. If we are not personally affected, we know people who are, and are thereby impacted. If you look at the newspaper or watch or listen to any news programs, you have to be impacted on some level.
There is still a war going on in the Middle East, afterall. This is a crisis for sure, even though we've grown accustomed to this crisis, in a way, unless we have loved ones over there.

Short or long term crisis-it all takes a toll.

It all has value, too, though. Spirituality is an instinct and it makes itself evident through our yearnings for something more.

Crisis certainly brings about yearnings.
Crises teach us that we are more than just our phusical bodies and minds.
Crises teach us that life has a meaning-and that meaning can be very personal. We go from being broken, tightly wound, and shut down to being open.
Our heart opens as we walk along the path of a crisis, so long as we awaken to the gift it presents. In other words, we see the crisis as a challenge to learn something from and we try to find value in the situation.

You can read even more by visiting pray with beads.com!

Bad Attitude? Oh, Oh

2009-06-19T00:01:00.000-07:00

What is Attitude?

Everything!!

Holding onto a positive attitude, even when things are not going along like you would prefer, increases the chances of finding happiness and fulfillment. A positive attitude can help you know when you are living 'on purpose,' too. Prayer gives us something to hold onto and have faith in. This sense of purpose, faith and joy can be held in the heart to take with you and tap into at anytime.

One of the wonderful things about prayer beads is that you can carry them in your pocket or purse and be reminded whenever you need. Reminded of what? Peace, joy, and a sense of something bigger than us-something sacred and totally available.

Do you know that having negative thoughts and emotions actually does harm to your body? Scientific research has shown that our body's respond to a negative experience at the time and continues to do so for hours afterwards. The sooner we 'get over' it and get back to a positive attitude, the healthier it is for you. So, it really pays to learn how to get back to that state of balance.
Your thoughts, whether positive or negative, lead to decisions. Who wants to make bad decisions? Be sure you are in a positive state of mind before you make any big decisions.
Worry is a negative thoughts, by the way. Why not visualize a positive outcome instead of a negative one (worry)?
Optimists may or may not predict their future correctly. Perhaps the worrier is more accurate. Some would argue that the worry state of mind begets the troubles in life. Optimists live longer than pessimists, also. Isn't that a great reason to change your attitude?
A negative attitude, at minimal, affects you by trashing your moment to moment happiness. That moment to moment happiness is what leads to a really great day!
Setbacks, disappointments and chaos are bound to happen. That is life. What makes these events even worse is an ongoing negative attitude. Learn to see these as opportunities that will guide you to something wonderful.

What can help your attitude?

I've got a very dear friend who stayed way too long in a job where she just didn't seem to fit. She did a great job, though, and helped a lot of people. Changing jobs meant a decrease in income, and more difficulty taking care of her family. However, working in what seemed like a toxic environment was taking its toll on her health. Tough predicament, right? She worked at this job for years all the while getting little and big 'nudges from heaven' that perhaps she should move on. One day she went in and learned that her position was going to be eliminated. She was devastated and relieved. She had a good excuse to look elsewhere, guess what? She found something wonderful that had always been there for her. She feels great physically, mentally and spiritually. It wasn't easy, but it was worth it. I kept telling her: right now you are getting nudges to encourage you to make a change. One day you'll get a kick in the pants. Why not listen now?

Dr. Bernie Siegel writes, 'Over God's desk there is a plaque that reads, "if you go around saying I've got a miserable life, I'll show you what miserable really is. And if yhou go around saying I've got a wonderful life, I'll show you what wonderful really is."

Law of Attraction and Happiness

2009-06-15T00:01:00.000-07:00

If there is any 'secret' to be told, it must have to do with the secret to happiness. Happiness is, afterall, something we strive for.

Perhaps you've read or watched the wildly popular 'The Secret,' which was about the Law of Attraction. They told us how to get what we want, basically, through our attitude. When we get what we want, we can be happy. Sounds kind of simple, doesn't it?

The Law of Attraction and Happiness

1. Happiness, according to experts, is not determined by the stuff we acquire. It is a state of being we acquire. Yes, certain stuff can bring temporary happiness, and money can buy you the ability to take better care of yourself, but you've got to thave the right attitude first.

2. You are responsible for your own quality of life. Yes, things happen, but your reaction to them is more important. While it is true that bad things happen (jobs get lost unexpectedly, people get sick, accidents happen, spouses leave...), it isn't true that our quality of life must stay poor for long. The length of grieving time is up to you.

It is important to go through life's changes, not unlike a little boat on the ocean. There will be times you float along just fine soaking up the rays. There will also be time it takes every ounce of courage and strength to keep your little boat afloat.

3. Recognize that life has his own ebbs and flows. Accept that fact, and you'll be much happier. Keep your boat as level as possible, and keep on sailing. It is so easy to wonder and even believe that bad times will go on forever.
The definition of bad is relative, however. What may seem 'bad' right now might be comparatively easy. Be careful what you whine about. Choose a perspective that leans toward the positive.

4. Out of every challenge comes growth. Many of the gifts we have to offer are ours because we earned them. Perhaps you learned how to find humor in the most trying of times, and now you help others in crisis. Perhaps you learned how to manage money when you didn't have much, and you now help others with little. I'm sure you can think of many examples on your own. Look toward the challenge with delight-you get to learn something wonderfully
powerful!

5. You are powerful enough to bring greatness! Your thoughts can uplift you. you've probably heard this, but you are your thoughts. if you think negatively, you will bring more negative energy your way. The opposite is true, as well. Positive people bring more positive energy into their lives.

6. Small changes in your thinking can bring about huge changes in your life. Try it for just a day and see what happens.

7. Practicing the principles of the law of attraction can improve your quality of life because thought becomes reality. Perhaps more than ever, we could all use something to really believe in. Many of us have beliefs in a higher power, and many of us do not. Positive prayer and affirmation prayers can help you to focus and stay positive.

Perhaps this challenging time is God's gift to us. Financial difficulties have made a lot of us think about what is really mportant, how easy it is to 'downsize,' just how resilient and courageous we are and how comforting our family can be. Believe in yourself. You are a child of God bestowed with beautiful gifts. Who are you to turn them away? Choose your path carefully and follow your heart. Quiet meditative prayer can help you to hear the voice of God that will direct you toward your own greatness. This isn't a journey for wimps or quitters, but it is a journey you don't want to miss! You can transform your life.

Music is a gift from heaven. Can music help your heart, too?

2009-06-10T00:01:00.000-07:00

Joyful Music in Tune With Heart Health
Study Finds it Leads to Improved Blood Flow
By Amanda Gardner-HealthDay Reporter

(HealthDay News) -- Throw on a little Bach, Beatles or Beyonce, and then sit back and relax in the knowledge that your blood vessels are expanding wide open, letting the blood flow freely.
Nothing could be healthier for your heart, a new study suggests.

"Listening to music that makes you feel good may also be a good preventive measure for heart health," said study author Dr. Michael Miller, director of the Center for Preventive Cardiology at the University of Maryland Medical Center, in Baltimore. "There's no downside. It's simple, economic and it may pay off dividends in regard to a healthy heart."

Previous studies had found that music could affect heart rate and blood pressure. Prayer has also been shown to improve cardiac performance. And Miller's group previously found that laughter improved vascular health.

For the new study, 10 healthy, nonsmoking volunteers (70 percent of them men with a mean age of 36) selected music that made them feel good and other music that made them feel anxious. Selections differed according to the person. Participants also were asked to look at humorous video clips and relaxation audio tapes.

The researchers measured brachial artery flow, in the forearm, using a blood pressure cuff, before and after each "stimulus."

"In the minute after you release [the rubber bulb], you see how the inner lining of the blood vessel reacts, the endothelial response," Miller said. "People with risk factors for heart disease like smoking and hypertension don't dilate normally. We believe that means that their vasculature is not healthy."

(This is a very interesting article, but it is a bit large for this format. Don't give up, though! Please read the rest of the article. It can be found right here. )

(SOURCES: Michael Miller, M.D., director, Center for Preventive Cardiology, University of Maryland Medical Center, Baltimore; Carl J. Lavie, M.D., medical director, cardiac rehabilitation, and prevention director, Stress Testing Laboratory, Ochsner Heart and Vascular Institute, New Orleans; Nov. 11, 2008, presentation, American Heart Association's annual scientific sessions, New Orleans)

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Prayer and Research

2009-06-08T21:27:00.000-07:00

Would you like to participate in a study about the prayer as a possible adjuvant Treatment for breast cancer?

The purpose of this pilot study is to investigate certain biological mechanisms that may underlie the beneficial effects seen among cancer patients who pray.

It will evaluate the effect of prayer on humoral (including biochemical/physiological inflammatory/immune) parameters, monitor changes in cancer related biomarkers and evaluate the effect of prayer on blood pressure, quality of life, health and dietary habits in relation to prayer activities, using validated questionnaires.

Like all clinical trials and studies, there are criteria to meet. I've included the contact information as well as more details about this interesting study on my website pray-with-beads.com.

Prayer as a Possible Adjuvant Treatment for Breast Cancer This study is currently recruiting participants. Verified by Southwestern Regional Medical Center, April 2009 First Received: August 20, 2007 Last Updated: April 22, 2009 History of Changes Sponsors and Collaborators: Southwestern Regional Medical Center Gateway for Cancer Research Information provided by: Southwestern Regional Medical Center ClinicalTrials.gov Identifier: NCT00519545 Purpose The goal of this study is to help determine the biochemical mechanisms underlying previously demonstrated health benefits of prayer, and to track humoral changes in various prayer activities.

Link right here to breast cancer and prayer study details.

Prayer as a Possible Adjuvant Treatment for Breast Cancer
This study is currently recruiting participants.
Verified by Southwestern Regional Medical Center, April 2009
First Received: August 20, 2007 Last Updated: April 22, 2009 History of Changes
Sponsors and Collaborators: Southwestern Regional Medical Center
Gateway for Cancer Research

Information provided by: Southwestern Regional Medical Center
ClinicalTrials.gov Identifier: NCT00519545

Purpose
The goal of this study is to help determine the biochemical mechanisms underlying previously demonstrated health benefits of prayer, and to track humoral changes in various prayer activities.

Condition Intervention
Breast Neoplasms
Behavioral: Prayer

Genetics Home Reference related topics: breast cancer
MedlinePlus related topics: Breast Cancer Cancer

U.S. FDA Resources
Study Type: Interventional
Study Design: Supportive Care, Randomized, Single Blind (Subject), Historical Control, Single Group Assignment, Efficacy Study
Official Title: Prayer as a Possible Adjuvant Treatment for Breast Cancer - A Randomized Partially Blinded Controlled Clinical Trial Evaluating the Effect of Prayer on Humoral and Biochemical Parameters in Stage I-IV Breast Cancer

Further study details as provided by Southwestern Regional Medical Center:
Primary Outcome Measures:
A. Evaluate the effect of prayer on humoral (including biochemical/physiological inflammatory/immune) parameters approximately every three months at the subjects routine oncology visit. [ Time Frame: 2 years ] [ Designated as safety issue: No ]

B. Monitor changes in cancer- related biomarkers, and evaluate these changes in relation to the participants' prayer activities as recorded since the previous oncology visit. [ Time Frame: 2 years ] [ Designated as safety issue: No ]

C. Evaluate the effect of prayer on blood pressure, quality of life, health and dietary habits in relation to prayer activities, using validated questionnaires. [ Time Frame: 2 years ] [ Designated as safety issue: No ]

Estimated Enrollment: 60
Study Start Date: March 2006
Estimated Study Completion Date: March 2011
Estimated Primary Completion Date: March 2010 (Final data collection date for primary outcome measure)

Arms Assigned Interventions
1: Experimental
scripted prayer group (intervention group) Behavioral: Prayer
Data collection on physiological biomarkers
2: No Intervention
no prayer intervention group (non-intervention group)

Detailed Description:
The purpose of this pilot study is to investigate certain biological mechanisms that may underlie the beneficial effects seen among cancer patients who pray. It will evaluate the effect of prayer on humoral (including biochemical/physiological inflammatory/immune) parameters, monitor changes in cancer related biomarkers and evaluate the effect of prayer on blood pressure, quality of life, health and dietary habits in relation to prayer activities, using validated questionnaires.

Eligibility
Ages Eligible for Study: 21 Years to 80 Years
Genders Eligible for Study: Female
Accepts Healthy Volunteers: No

Criteria Inclusion Criteria:

Primary histological diagnosis of Stage I-IV breast cancer.
Initial diagnosis of breast cancer within 5 year of study enrollment.
Not currently receiving chemotherapy or radiation therapy. Hormone therapy is allowed.
Life expectancy of at least 12 months.
ECOG performance status of 0, 1, or 2.
Willing to sign informed consent indicating that they are aware of the investigational nature of the study and the randomized study design.
Willing to comply with monthly follow-up phone calls.
Willing to complete questionnaires at regular oncology clinic visits.
Able to read write & understand English.
Exclusion Criteria:

Concurrent treatment with chemotherapy or radiation therapy
Less than 3 months since last dose of chemotherapy or radiation therapy.
Breast cancer diagnosis more than 5 years prior to study enrollment
Less than 21 or greater than to 80 years old.
Life threatening or severe concurrent non-malignant conditions.
Uncontrolled diabetes mellitus.
Severe heart disease.
Severe liver disease. Severe lung disease.
History of smoking within 5 years of study enrollment.
Psychological or psychiatric disorder that would interfere with study compliance.
History of missed appointments or poor medical compliance.
Inability to understand instructions on how to complete a questionnaire.
No access to a phone.
Contacts and Locations

Please refer to this study by its ClinicalTrials.gov identifier: NCT00519545

Contacts
Contact: JJ Stark, BS 1-877-896-3698 jj.stark@ctca-hope.com
Contact: Carol Goetz, RN 1-877-896-3698 carol.goetz@ctca-hope.com

Locations
United States, Oklahoma
Cancer Treatment Centers of America at Southwestern Regional medical Center Recruiting
Tulsa, Oklahoma, United States, 74133
Principal Investigator: Petra Ketterl, MD

Sponsors and Collaborators
Southwestern Regional Medical Center
Gateway for Cancer Research
Investigators
Principal Investigator: Stephen Ray, MD Cancer Treatment Centers of America
Principal Investigator: Petra Ketterl, MD Cancer Treatment Centers of America at Southwestern Regional Medical Center
Principal Investigator: Percy McCray, Rev. Cancer Treatment Centers of America
Principal Investigator: Michael Langham, Rev. Cancer Treatment Centers of America at Southwestern Regional Medical Center
Principal Investigator: Daniel Nixon, MD Cancer Control Center of Charleston

Responsible Party: Cancer Control Center of Charleston, Charleston South Carolina ( Dan Nixon, M.D. )
Study ID Numbers: CTCA 05-04
Study First Received: August 20, 2007
Last Updated: April 22, 2009
ClinicalTrials.gov Identifier: NCT00519545 History of Changes
Health Authority: United States: Institutional Review Board

Keywords provided by Southwestern Regional Medical Center:
breast
cancer
stage
one
four

Study placed in the following topic categories:
Skin Diseases
Adjuvants, Immunologic
Breast Neoplasms
Breast Diseases

Additional relevant MeSH terms:
Neoplasms
Neoplasms by Site
Skin Diseases
Breast Neoplasms
Breast Diseases

ClinicalTrials.gov processed this record on June 08, 2009

Vision Board-One Path for Success

2009-06-07T00:01:00.000-07:00

What is a Vision Board and Why Should You Care?

A vision board is quite simply a board that you design for yourself. It is YOUR unique board covered with photos, items and whatever you choose.

The items on the board are steps of your journey and reminders of where you want to
go.

It is so difficult sometimes to stay on track when we get tugged in many different directions.

The vision board is your daily reminder of where you want to be. It might also simply plant the seed for you, and even give you hope.

It will help you draw creative energy to your actions. It is YOUR creation, so you'll have to think about what YOU really want or see for yourself. It isn't to be judged by you or anyone else, either. It will be perfect for you simply because you created it for yourself.

Let your 'inner critic' take the day off.

My vision board has photos of the ocean. I love the ocean. I experience a supreme sense of peace and joy when I am at the beach or on the ocean. I certainly feel close to God, and although I am so small compared to the ocean, I feel like I'm a part of it. My mother tells a story about me when I was 3 or 4 that goes something like this: 'The first time I took her to the beach she just ran into the water and the waves with absolutely no fear!' I don't have a lot of childhood memories, but I do remember this day. I don't remember the spanking I got for running in there, but I clearly remember seeing the ocean and feeling like I had just come home.

So, needless to say, my vision board has photos of my favorite place in Hawaii, where I used to live. My heart is still there, so I believe I'll return one day. I'm reminded of this daily in such a way that I can enjoy today, although I'm in central Texas. I'm with my husband in some photos as my reminder that I want to strengthen that relationship. The words I put on my board are strong and simple. There are no photos of me working a full time job because I envision myself being financially independent-not necessarily rich with money, but rich in happiness for
sure!

Begin by using a board of some kind that you can tape, glue or any other way affix photos or other items. If you aren't sure what you want on your board, don't worry. Go through magazines that catch your attention and start cutting out photos that touch you in some way.

Don't judge or try to figure out why right now. Just gather. When you are ready, affix those that speak to you the loudest to your board. You might want to add some affirmations such
as 'I am ready to ____' 'God loves me' 'I love my life' I am happy;

Post your board where you can see it regularly. Remind yourself about your path. You may end up with several vision boards or you can keep adding to yours. Your vision will grow, afterall.

The vision board can help you manifest and accept greatness in your life. Perhaps it can be part of an altar that you make for yourself. Create a peace-place for yourself. It doesn't have to be big, but it does have to be special for you. Comfortable pillows or chair, inspirational reading materials, photos, your board, candles...

Believe in Miracles-they happen every day! Evolve as a spiritual being and invest in your physical and emotional healing as well.

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Prayer for Protection From the Wicked-Psalm V

2009-06-04T00:01:00.000-07:00

Give ear to my words, O Lord, consider my meditation.

Hearken unto the voice of my cry, my Kind, and my God: for unto thee will I pray.

My voice shalt thou hear in the morning, O Lord; in the morning will I direct my prayer unto thee, and will look up.

For thou art not a God that hath pleasure in wickedness: neither shall evil dwell with thee.

The foolish shall not stand in thy sight: thou hatest all workers of iniquity.

Thou shalt destroy them that speak leasing: the Lord will abhor the bloody and deceitful man.

But as for me, I will come into thy house in the multitude of thy mercy: and in thy fear will I worship toward thy holy temple.

Lead me, O Lord, in thy righteousness because of mine enemies; make thy way straight before my face.

For there is no faithfulness in their mouth; their inward part is very wickedness; their throat is an open sepulchre; they flatter with their tongue.

But let those that put their trust in thee rejoice: let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them:
let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee.

For thou, Lord, wilt bless the righteous; with favour wilt thou compass him as with a shield.

Direct Your Life-Affirmation Prayers

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Envisioning your intended, which is what affirmation prayers are, implies a sense of fulfilment and wholeness already.

Affirmations are more powerful than a simple request or even a plea or a beg. When you affirm, there is an assumption that it is your right to have what you intend.

My father used to tell me that life is not a dress rehearsal-you may as well live it well. We all probably try to do this, but find that distractions and challenges get in the way.

Keep the Focus on What is Real!

1. Relax! Take 3 deep cleansing breaths.

2. Take a good look at your Vision Board at least once a day. It is even better if you have it posted where you can see it regularly.

3. Focus-see it-experience it! The powers of the mind are phenomenal. Your imagination can create your reality-in both positive and negative ways.

4. Be sure your daily actions, decisions and conversations (even those in your head!) take you toward your visions.

5. Stay on course and let every decision support your vision.

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New EBooks with Lots of Freebies!

2009-05-31T23:26:00.001-07:00

I've got quite a deal for all my loyal readers out there! It is my way of thanking you for sharing with me and reading what I've had to 'say.'

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The Soul's Sincere Desire

The Spiral Way

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Affirmation Prayers and Gratitude

2009-05-29T00:01:00.000-07:00

THANK YOU!

Envisioning your intended, which is what affirmation prayers are, implies a sense of fulfilment and wholeness already.

Affirmations are more powerful than a simple request or even a plea or a beg. When you affirm, there is an assumption that it is your right to have what you intend.

Stop Asking and Start Knowing!

Manifest your Visions by Claiming Them!

What Will Your Affirmation Say?

1. Begin with Gratitude-'Thank you for hearing my prayer'

2. Then, start with the solution, not the problem.

3. Act with complete confidence that your prayer has already been answered-because it already has. Will it look like you envisioned? Probably not perfectly, however it will still be perfect.

4. Stay focused on your vision. This can be tough sometimes because, if you are like me, there are a lot of things that get in the way to block your focus. Be careful not to falter or become negative. What you think becomes reality.

5. See the perfection in all the situations. Challenge yourself to accept perfection for yourself.

6. Believe that you have the power to heal and create when you think in alignment with God.

7. Remember your Vision and your Purpose. Keep the Faith. A vision board can be helpful here. In some cultures, such as in the Native American culture, there is a 'faithkeeper' who holds the tribal vision. This is a cultural tradition. You can be your 'FaithKeeper.'

8. Your purpose will light the way to your vision and your intention. You, must, of course, be clear on your purpose. If you find that nothing much has meaning for you or it is really easy to stray, then you may actually be off purpose.

Affirmation Prayers-5 Simple Steps

2009-05-27T00:01:00.001-07:00

Five simple steps to help you use Affirmation Prayers:

1. Recite the affirmation prayer regularly-at least twice a day and more often, if needed.

2. Post the affirmation prayer where you can see it as a reminder-tape it to your bathroom mirror, your locker at work, your car-whatever works for you.

3. Remember to recite it with belief. You are your thoughts, afterall. Know it, believe it and become it!

4. Recite out loud or in silence. Start with saying it out loud, though. You'll find it far more powerful.

5. Keep it simple to start with. Simple is actually good even for the affirmation savvy.

A few affirmation prayer examples:

I am healthy

I have enough ____

I am patient and kind

Have you heard of VISION BOARDS? Affirmations work in a variety of ways.

This is just PART ONE of many other blog entries and webpages about Prayer Affirmations. You won't want to miss even one of these posts!

Affirmation Prayer

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Why Affirmations Work

Affirmations are more powerful than a simple request or even a plea or a beg. When you affirm, there is an assumption that it is your right to have what you intend.

Stop Asking and Start Knowing!

Manifest your Visions by Claiming Them!

How about an example? Let's say you lose your job.

You may pray- "please send me a job."

Affirmation Prayer- "The perfect job is waiting for me. Thank you for giving me the ability to seek. I have faith. The perfect job is mine."

Asking or begging implies a need with emptiness, as well as a sense of being a victim. While it is natural to experience some disillusion and negative thoughts as you get it together enough to take that next step, the best step is the positive step. It takes practice and time to get there, but it is worth the effort.

Have you heard of VISION BOARDS? Affirmations work in a variety of ways.

This is just PART ONE of many other blog entries and webpages about Prayer Affirmations. You won't want to miss even one of these posts!

Special Memorial Day Prayers

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Special Memorial Day Prayers

Almighty God Who art the Author of Liberty and the Champion of the oppressed hear our prayer. We the men of Special Forces, acknowledge our dependence upon Thee in the preservation of human freedom.

Go with us as we seek to defend the defenseless and to free the enslaved. May we ever remember that our nation, whose oath "in God We Trust," expects that we shall requit ourselves with honor, that we may never bring shame upon our faith, our families, or our fellow men.

Grant us wisdom from Thy mind, courage from Thine heart, and protection by Thine hand. It is for Thee that we do battle, and to thee belongs the victor's crown. For Thine is the kingdom, and the power and glory forever. Amen!

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Blessings for Beginnings

2009-05-23T00:00:00.000-07:00

Blessings for Beginnings

Beginnings are exciting, yet scary. Think about your own beginnings: first day of school, first day of a new job, new marriage, birth of a child...

These first steps and experiences are really the gifts of growth. To refuse to grow or experience new beginnings is really self-neglect.
Consider where you might be called to a new beginning-something completely new.

Without this calling, life would cease being exciting, fun and your growth would stagnate.

Ask for a blessing to make the right first step. It can't hurt, but it certainly will help. And, hey, it is easy and free!
Blessings for Beginnings

There are many types of beginnings-Some are fast and we have no choice in the matter. Some examples are illnesses, accidents and other tragedies. Some of these events are actually very positive, but are still abrupt such as an unexpected job promotion.

Some changes seem to come about quickly, although we've prepared for a long time. A high school or college graduation is a good example. One day you are a student, and the next day you are not. The work took years, but the change seemed to happen overnight. Suddenly a new beginning started.

Sometimes beginnings happen slow and steady and just seem to work out. This type of beginning is very exciting!

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About Memorial Day and Our Prayers

2009-05-22T00:01:00.000-07:00

Memorial Day Prayers

Memorial Day was originally called Decoration Day, and was designated as a day to remember those who have died in the service of our nation.

Just how did it all begin? Well, that is kind of a mystery. About two dozen cities and towns claim to be the birthplace of Memorial Day. Before the end of the Civil War, a hymn was published called "Kneel Where Our Loves are Sleeping" which was written for the ladies of the South who decorated graves of the Confederate dead.

Perhaps Memorial Day and the prayers, hymns and other dedications that followed had many different beginnings in order to honor those who gave their lives for the United States. You see, no matter how it began, the true source-love and honor for those who gave so much-is there.

Original Memorial Day Prayer

How to Celebrate Memorial Day:
"...gather around their sacred remains and garland the passionless mounds above them with choicest flowers of springtime....let us in this solemn presence renew our pledges to aid and assist those whom they have left among us as sacred charges upon the Nation's gratitude,--the soldier's and sailor's widow and orphan." --General John Logan, General Order No. 11, 5 May 1868

How Will You Celebrate Memorial Day?

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Memorial Day is a day set aside to honor those who have given so much so we,

United States citizens, can live a good life.

How will you spend it?

Going to a big sale

Party

How will you spend it in a way to really

honor those who served our country?

Evening Prayer of Trust in God-Psalm IV

2009-05-21T00:01:00.000-07:00

Hear me when I call, O God of my righteousness: thou hast enlarged me when I was in distress; have mercy upon me, and hear my prayer.

O ye sons of men, how long will ye turn my glory into shame? How long will ye love vanity, and seek after leasing? Selah.

But know that the Lord hath set apart him that is godly for himself: the Lord will hear when I call unto him.

Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still. Selah.

Offer the sacrifices of righteousness, and put your trust in the Lord.

There be many that say, Who will shew us any good? Lord, lift thou up the light of thy countenance upon us.

Thou hast put gladness in my heart, more than in time that their corn and their wine increased.

I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, Lord, only makest me dwell in safety.

Blessings

2009-05-20T00:01:00.000-07:00

Have you ever thought about the blessings in your life?

Just what are blessings, anyway?

Blessings are special favors we ask for God to bestow upon us. We hope that these favors bring us peace, happiness, wealth and protection. They are special, unique prayers that:

Remind us that each life is connected in spirit

Show that our inner light shines bring, no matter what

Give us a protective web as we step forward in each day and little journey of our life

Encourage us to feel protected and guided.

Provoke an intimacy that is privileged-asked from that personal place where human life and divine life interact freely.

This gracious invitation is the invocation of spirit that can be subtle or might be a plea. Sometimes we beg to God-this is also a prayer.

No matter your language or religion, these special prayers become a part of life.

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The Power of Presence and Success

2009-05-16T00:01:00.000-07:00

The Power of Presence and Success
Have you ever noticed that some of the most intense, meaningful experiences are the ones where you didn't say much, but instead listened? In truly meaningful experiences, your gave your whole self and didn't multi-task; you didn't think of what you could or wanted to say; you didn't pass judgement. You were simply present.

There is success in Presence. When you give people what they want, your undivided attention-they will be attracted to you. The power of presence is one that passes right through you, and it is this energy that is radiant 'love energy' that is so attractive to others.

This love can fill the room!

So what do you need to experience the power of presence?

1. Feel grounded in your physical body
2. Find relaxation and peace
3. Release stresses-physical, emotional, spiritual
4. Believe in the power of presence and find your own path (I'll give you some suggestions, so stay tuned!)
5. Focus on what it takes for you to feel good on the inside, and not just how to look good on the outside.
6. Be comfortable in your own skin and let others see who you are rather than work so hard on an image.
7. Be open to the energy of others and allow yourself to take in the energy of other people and all that is going on around you. This is one step (not an easy one, but well worth the effort) to experience 'soul energy.'
8. How you are is more important than what you say. This goes against the ways of many of us.

There will be many articles to follow, because prayer and prayerfulness is an essential component of true presence.

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Morning Prayer of Trust in God-Psalm III

2009-05-14T00:01:00.000-07:00

Lord, how are they increased that trouble me! Many are they that rise up against me.

Many there be which say of my soul, There is no help for him in God. Selah.

But thou, O Lord, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head.

I cried unto the Lord with my voice, and he heard me out of his holy hill. Selah.

I laid me down and slept; I awaked; for the Lord sustained me.

I will not be afraid of ten thousands of people, that have set themselves against me round about.

Arise, O Lord; save me, O my God: for thou hast smitten all mine enemies upon the cheek bone; thou hast broken the teeth of the ungodly.

Salvation belongeth unto the Lord: thy blessing is upon thy people.

The Power of Presence

2009-05-13T00:01:00.000-07:00

There is true power in presence, although it isn't easy to come by.

Just what does it mean to be present?
Presence is a NOUN, not a verb. True presence is really a 'state of being'-not so much about WHAT you do. In other words, it is how you are, and how you act-not specifically what you do.

We all basically yearn to be acknowledged-heard-understood... We need and want others to pay attention to us and to at least try and understand us a bit.

We yearn for this in our most complex relationships as well as those simple ones with people we may not know well. Consider this: you stop at the dry cleaners, and the attendant asks you about your children because she remembers a little comment you made a few weeks ago. Doesn't that really impact your day? You bet! How about if your spouse actually stops and looks at you when you tell them about your day?

The power of this kind of presence is silent, but don't fool yourself-there is real power in it.

Prayer is an essential component of Presence. Visit Pray with Beads to learn more!

Build Your Own Personal Holy Rosary or Prayer Beads!

2009-05-12T21:00:00.000-07:00

Buy Your Own One-of-a-Kind Rosary or Prayer Beads Today!

You can even create your own.

You'll find plenty of beautiful spiritually inspired jewelry, also.

Coming soon-Design Your Own Wedding necklaces for the bride and bridesmaids! These are VERY special, so stay tuned!

The Reign of the Lord's Annointed-Psalm II

2009-05-07T00:01:00.000-07:00

Why do the heathen rage, and the people imagine a vain thing?

The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, against the Lord, and against his anointed, saying,

Let us break their bands asunder, and cast away their cords from us.

He that sitteth in the heavens shall laugh: the Lord shall have them in derision.

Then shall he speak unto them in the wrath, and vex them in his sore displeasure.

Yet have I set my kind upon my holy hill of Zion.

I will declare the decree: the Lord hath said unto me, Thou art my Son; his day have I begotten thee.

As of me, and I shall give thee the heathen forthine inheritance, and the uttermost parts of the earth for thy possession.

Thou shalt break them with a rod of iron; thou shalt dash them in pieces like a potter’s vessel.

Be wise now therefore, O ye kinds: be instructed, ye judges of the earth.

Serve the Lord with fear, and rejoice with trembling.

Kiss the Son, lest he be angry, and ye perish from the way, when his wrath is kindled but a little.
Blessed are all they that put their trust in him.

What is Prayer?

2009-05-04T00:01:00.000-07:00

Prayer is the act of attempting to verbally communicate with the supernatural. In most cases, this is God. It can be a private or a group experience. It can be formal or informal.

Your Daily Bread Prayer is the very soul and essence of our spirituality. It doesn't matter who you pray to, but it is important that you pray. It is the very core of man's life. Therefore begin your day with prayer and make it resonate from your soul so it can carry you through the day, if needed. End your day with prayer to help assure a peaceful night's rest.

What is prayer?

Simply put, prayer is a direct route to joy and peace of mind. Imagine what the world would look like if we were all prayerful, filled with joy and actively sought peace? How different our days would be! Let me tell you a little secret: If you are more prayerful, joy filled and peaceful, you will see the world as such, also, AND you would attract more positive people and events into your life. The first step to peace begins right in our hearts!

You can read much more about prayer on my websites, Naturally Holistic, Pray with Beads and my rosary, prayer bead and spiritually inspired jewelry store. Please take a look!

Here is a sample of the few of the pages on Pray With Beads.com:

How to Pray with Beads
The Miracle of Prayer
Christian Prayer Beads
How to Pray the Rosary and many, many more!

Psalms-The Righteous and the Wicked Contrasted

2009-05-01T00:01:00.000-07:00

Psalms

The Righteous and the Wicked Contrasted

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in the law doth he meditate day and night.

And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.

The ungoldly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away.

Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.

For the Lord knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.

A Spar's Prayer

2009-04-27T00:01:00.000-07:00

A Spar's Prayer
Lord give us the grace of humility

And the courage to follow in Thy wake

A course of selfless service.

Instill in us tolerance, loyalty

And cheerful obedience to those

Whose duty is command.

Make us glad that we are SPARS

True to the highest traditions of the Coast Guard.

Inspire us to wear with proud dignity

The uniform that is symbolic of the Flag.

Keep us true to the code of the gentlewoman

In its finest sense, ever mindful that

Reputation is but the reflection of character.

Make us to be silent when to speak would be unkind.

Give us the faith to say at each day’s end,

Lord, Thy will be done.

AMEN.

--Beatrice V. Ball,Commander, U.S. Coast Guard Reserve

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Psalms-What Do You Know?

2009-04-25T00:01:00.000-07:00

Why We Like Psalms so Much

Ever need that quick spiritual 'pick-me up?' Psalms are short and sweet-they get right to the point. They are also nondogmatic views of God that serve as a resource for spiritual renewal for a people no matter the culture or religion.

What about the Origin of Psalms?

The word 'psalms' comes from the Greek word Psalter. The word 'psalter' comes from the Hebrew word 'techillim' which means Song.

This is one of the things we love about psalms! They are like songs-both poetic and metaphorical.

When were the Psalms Written?

It is believed that they were written around the tenth century BC, although many of the Psalms are ascribed to David. However, some modern day scholars doubt that David wrote them at all. The most likely birth of the psalms is that they were written over a number of centuries by many, unknown authors. Too bad for them, but these unknown authors didn't get credit. Credit was instead given to other authors at a later time.

What is Best Way to Enjoy Psalms?

Psalms may seem to be a bit disorganized, however if they are read as poems, they are easier to understand and enjoy.

What are Psalms Really About?

Some of the most common themes of psalms are beauty, sweetness, nature, adoration and death.

What Makes Psalms Different than Poetry?

They flow beautifully, but unlike most traditional poetry, the authors address God directly. Poetry in Western cultures tend to address man and nature while Psalms are more of an expression of human feelings of repentence or praise, doubt or faith, anger or calm, sorry or joy all within the relationship with God. This makes Psalms incredibly hardy and inspirational reading material, and why I've devoted several pages to Psalms in the Pray with Beads website.

Prayer for Coast Guard Cadet

2009-04-15T00:01:00.000-07:00

The Prayer of a Coast Guard Cadet

O God, Thou who are waiting to bring peace to my uncertain soul, give me the grace to accept Thy perfect love which casts out all fear and feverish tensions.

Accept my gratitude for the privilege of wearing the uniform of a Cadet.

Keep me steady in all my strivings to become worthy of the trust, which others have placed in me.

Grant that I may have the heart and mind to make decisions in terms of what is right and wrong and not according to my emotions or desires.

Fill the sails of my life with courage, strength and truth that I may be one with those who steer their lives by the stars above.

Enable me to live as a good brother or sister in the family of mankind, sharing all my good fortunes with others, irrespective of their station, race or creed.

Quicken my spirit as I seek to live by the honor code.

Make me wise in patience, tack and understanding that I may be found worthy of leadership. Bless my loved ones and may I never fail them.

Bring me to a good end and an unfailing confidence in Thy protecting care.

AMEN.

Remember to Remember

2009-04-12T00:01:00.000-07:00

These are challenging times for many of us. It seems I'm working a lot harder for a lot less. I've noticed that the more I work, the less I remember to remember myself. Even if I have the time, I can't seem to get my mind from thinking about the long list of 'have to do list.'

There are a lot of things I could do to unwind-lots of great stress-busting ideas, meditation time, deep breathing (which is quick and VERY helpful, by the way), exercise...

One of my favorite, quick things to do that really helps me remember to remember myself is to choose a card. I've got a handful of different themed cards, and it seems that which ever one I choose is jsut what I need for the day.

Randomly choose a card, spend a few minutes and meditate or ponder on it and replace it. You can even take it with you, if you want to if it helps you to remember. There are times I've looked at a card and thought that it just didn't pertain to me. But guess what?

The card I picked ended up being just the one I needed to help me during the day.

Give it a try! Choose a card set that seems to call to you. I like them all, although the Grace Cards and The Power of Intention cards are my favorites. At the beginning of the day, randomly choose a card, ponder on it and venture back to it as the day goes on.

It may be just what you need to remember to remember yourself.

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Prayers for the Coast Guard

2009-04-09T00:01:00.000-07:00

A Coast Guard Prayer

Almighty and Everlasting God, Whose hand stills the tumult of the deep, we offer our prayers for those who serve in our Coast Guard.
We are mindful of their traditions of selfless service to the seafarers who make their ways to appointed ports.
Employ their devotions of good ends as they track the weather and search for the seas for those in extremity of storm, shipwreck or battle.
Make their soundings and markings sure that safe passages may be found by those who go down to the sea in ships.
Encourage them, O Lord, as they stand guard over our coasts and the bulwarks of our freedoms. Graciously deliver them from threatening calamities in all their perilous voyages.
Bless the keepers of the lights and be Thou their close friend in lonely watches.
Keep the beacons of honor and duty burning that they may reach the home port with duty well performed, in service to Thee and our land.
AMEN.

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Closing Prayer 1

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May God bless you with discomfort

At easy answers, half-truths, and superficial relationships

So that you may live deep within your heart.

May God bless you with anger

At injustice, oppression and exploitation of people,

So that you may work for justice, freedom and peace.

May God bless you with tears

To shed for those who suffer pain, rejection, starvation and war

So that you may reach out your hand to comfort them

And to turn their pain into joy.

And may God bless you with enough foolishness

To believe that you can make a difference in the world,

So that you can do what others claim cannot be done.

Amen.

Franciscan Benediction

Firefighter's Prayer

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When I am called to duty, God,

Whenever flames may rage

Give me strength to save a life

Whatever be its age.

Help me embrace a little child

Before it is too late

Or save an older person from

The horror of that fate.

Enable me to be alert

And hear the weakest shout

And quickly and efficiently

Put the fire out.

I want to fill my calling

To give the best in me

To guard my friend and neighbor

And protect his property.

And if according to Your will

While on duty I must answer death's call

Bless with Your protecting hand

My family one and all.

Amen

Prayers for Forgiveness III

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PRAYER FOR WHEN YOU NEED FORGIVENESS - III

Forgive me, God, for anything I didn’t do today which I might have done.

Forgive me for any help I might have given today which I did not give.

Forgive me for being so wrapped up in my own troubles and my own problems that I had no time for those of anyone else.

Forgive me for being so immersed in my own work that I had no time to give anyone else a helping hand.

Forgive me for being selfish with my own leisure time and for refusingto give some of it up to help someone else.

Help me to learn the lesson that selfishness and happiness can never go together.

Help me to find happiness in forgetting myself and in trying to bring help and happiness to others.

Amen.

Prayer for Forgiveness- II

2009-03-10T00:01:00.000-07:00

PRAYER FOR WHEN YOU NEED FORGIVENESS - I

O Lord our God, we confess that in dealings with others we often are like a clam, 98% mouth covered with a hard shell.

A friend has aproblem and rather than listen, we sound off.

A job doesn't go quiteright and rather than learn, we spout off.

Lord, you made us with twoears for every mouth.

Help us to take this hint from Your creation.

Make us slow to speak and ready to listen, that we may better understand and pull together to get the job done and this great ship safely home.

Amen.

Prayer for Forgiveness

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PRAYER FOR WHEN YOU NEED HEALING INSIDE

O God,
These prayers come from all of us.

Someone prays on our behalf, but the prayers belong to everyone, and come from our hearts more than from our mouths.

In some ways none of us really knows how another feels, because each of us must struggle with his own fears, cope with his own problems, hurt from his own pains, search for his own goals, forgive and be forgiven his own failures.

In such matters, God, when we seek understanding and hope for encouragement, it is to you that we turn.

In moments such as these, we reach beyond ourselves and our troubles to you...asking not so
much for things, but for a second or two of your presence.

Just your slightest touch, and the day will be blessed, the raw spots will be healed
and there will be peace in the hours ahead.

And so we pray to you
Dear God, Almighty, Everlasting One--all of us--giving thanks for
this moment, your touch and our healing.

Amen.

6 Great Reasons to Build Your Own Website

2009-03-02T17:47:00.000-08:00

This is a great time to make some of your dreams come true! Challenging times can shift our thinking toward the things that are REALLY important. Time for ourselves and loved ones and enjoyment in life are just a few things we yearn for, right? Start making it happen TODAY!

6 Great Reasons to Build Your Own Website Today!

1. There is something you know a lot about that someone else in the world really wants to know.

2. A few extra hours a day (or week or month) will help you today AND help protect your future.

3. It's EASY and you can have lots of support along the way.

4. Times are challenging, but it is easy to prepare.

5. Make $$$$ while you sleep. (My personal favorite reason)

6. You can control your own destiny.

Learn more about how to build your own website right here!

The Nurses' Prayers

2009-02-16T00:01:00.000-08:00

A Nurse's Prayer

Let me dedicate my life today
to the care of those
who come my way.

Let me touch each one
with healing hands
and the gentle art
for which I stand.

And when tonight
when the day is done.
Oh, let me rest in peace
if I have helped just one...

Teri Lynn Thompson, RN
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Nurse's Prayer

Dear Lord, please give me strength,
To face the day ahead.

Dear Lord, please give me courage,
As I approach each hurting bed.

Dear Lord, please give me wisdom
With every word I speak.

Dear Lord, please give me patience,
As I comfort the sick and weak.

Dear Lord, Please give me assurance,
As the day slips into night.

That I have done the best I can,
That I have done what's right.

Author Unknown
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MY NURSE'S PRAYER

When I falter, give me courage.
When I tire, renew my strength.
When I weaken because I'm human,
Inspire me on to greater length.

If doctors and patients become demanding,
And days are too short for all my duty,
Help me remember I chose to serve,
To do so with grace, and spiritual beauty.

In humility, Lord, I labour long hours,
And though I sometimes may fret;
My mission is mercy.
Abide with me, that I may never forget.

Author Unknown

Soldier Prayers

2009-02-13T00:01:00.000-08:00

Soldier Prayers: Dedicated to my favorite soldier-my son-Today on his 22nd Birthday.

Prayer for The Troops

"Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives, do I give to you.
Let not your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful." -John 14:27

Father, we approach You as the Most High God. We declare that You are the Creator of all things.
You set the boundaries of the sea, and stretched out the heavens above. When You act Lord,
no one can reverse it, and there is no one who can deliver out of Your hand.

We ask Lord that Your mighty hand of protection would be with our troops, that You would
surround them with Your favor as a shield. Bless them in the land, and do not
surrender them to the desire of their foes.

I pray that Your hand of protection would guard them from chemical and biological agents.
Give our soldiers wisdom in staying clear of these weapons, and
thwart the plans of the enemy to use them.

I ask for discernment in separating civilians from soldiers. Help our troops to
protect the innocent, and to watch over the needy as they liberate the Iraqi people.

Go before them Lord as they press into the battle and be their rear guard.
Surround them with songs of deliverance, and keep them from the hands of the enemy.
In Jesus name, Amen.

http://www.stcharles-church.org

Soldier Prayer: Deliverance from Evil

"Jesus, I'm so grateful that You strengthen and protect us from the evil one. Lord, I stand with our troops right now, and ask You to strengthen them to do the right thing.

Guard them from the evil one. Uphold our troops and cause them to walk in righteousness, so You can bless them.
Deliver them lord, from pride, bitterness, revenge, and rage. Cause them to move in compassion and walk Humbly before You.

Lord, when the tempter comes, You always provide a way of escape. Please help these soldiers to run to You every time they are tempted. Strengthen them to take every thought captive and to cling to You. You are their Deliverer, cause their hearts to trusts in You and be their help." In Jesus mighty name, amen.
http://www.prayercentral.net

A SOLDIER PRAYER

Brave warriors,
should fate find us in battle,
May our cause be just.
May our leaders have clear vision.
May our courage not falter.
May we be triumphant an earn victory
as we show mercy to our enemies.
May our efforts bring lasting peace.
May our sacrifice be always
appreciated by those we serve.
May we return to our loved ones unharmed.
Should we be harmed, may our wounds heal.
Should we perish in the struggle,
may God embrace us and find for us
a place in His Kingdom.
http://www.faithfulcross.com

Psalm 23 (A psalm of David) Soldiers Prayer

The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul.
He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name sake.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,

Fear and Love

2009-02-10T00:01:00.000-08:00

Fear and Love

It has been said that your feelings about something can be broken down into two basic aspects: Fear or Love

If you have love, you cannot fear. If you have fear, you cannot love.

Confused? I bet you can think of many instances where you have love and fear all at the same time. You love your child, and yet you fear that something could harm him or her. True, but consider this:

There must first be LOVE
This means that you must first love yourself. When you don't exercise or you don't eat well, you are not loving your body or yourself enough. There are many pages about nutrition and wellness on my naturally holistic website and yet I find that I don't follow my own advice at times.

Example:

I talked with a friend last night who is experiencing a tremendous amount of stress with regard to work. Like many of us, she is experiencing cut backs, more work for less pay, more responsibility...and tons of fear. There is fear of the unknown and fear of the known-working longer and harder means more time from my family and less time for myself.

What if we consider this time as one of those in which we need to flow with the current?

Instead of fighting the current situation, take a look at all the changes you can make. For instance, I transfered the little bit of credit card debt we have to a no-interest account that I can pay off a bit slower, but still before the interest kicks in next year. I made the calls to see if re-financing our mortgage would be beneficial. If not, we can downsize. If the choice is between a bigger home and my health, well...

What if we put our trust in God (or whatever your belief system) and faith that things always work out for the best?

This could be just the opporunity you need to stop and think about what you really want to do. If your current job is you life's work and the job is your work-purpose, then stick it out and follow your heart. For instance, my life's work is nursing and this is a job I have. No matter what is going on around me, I give the absolute best care I can give to every patient. That brings me joy-not the 'job.'

What if we take this time of chaos and make it a time of growth?

Nursing is my career choice, but I've always been creative. I love to write. This current situation has given me the courage to take the steps and devote the energy to other dreams I've had for a long time. What a blessing! Maybe before when I looked at the income (Oh, my gosh-can I really give up that income to pursue something that is just getting started?) I hesitated to take that leap of faith. Many of us are being pushed into that leap of faith! Taking that leap may end up being the best step ever taken!

Just a few thoughts about Love and Fear. Love more than you fear. Let the anxiety go, and enjoy the ride. If your child is sick, focus on all you can do out of love. Pray for that child or job or whatever out of love. Pray for yourself out of love. Life will be more joyful-even in the chaos.

Spiritual Life

2009-02-07T00:00:00.000-08:00

Spiritual Life

Are you trying to live a more spiritual life, but you aren't sure where to begin? You can start Right Here!!
I've decided to write a variety of shorter pages, so you can browse, spend a little time, practice and grow along with all of us!

What Does It Mean to Be Spiritual and live a spiritual life?

Let's first say what 'spiritual' is not: it is not religiosity. It is far more than that.

You CAN be Religious and Spiritual. Many people are.
You CAN be Spiritual and not Religious.
You CAN be Religious and not Spiritual at all.

Spirituality is that instinct and yearning for something more-and also the inner knowing that where you are right now is right where you should be. It is what keeps you sane inspite of insanity in the world around you. It is the knowing that every moment and every event is a spiritual event. Religiosity is your beliefs in a higher power. Your spirituality is what you do with those beliefs-who you are because of those beliefs. It is about compassion, kindness and love.

There will be many more posts and webpages about this with tons of guidance about living a spiritual life!

Be sure and take a look at the spiritual needs pages. We all have spiritual needs, and this is one way to define spirituality.

I have to admit that I've kind of fallen off the wagon recently. I've been so tied to the business and 'have to' things in my life, that I've let myself and my own practices take a back seat. This is part of why these pages are so important. I know I'm not alone in this AND these pages are my reminders, also! I hope you enjoy them.

Creative Imagery and Prayer

2009-02-04T00:01:00.000-08:00

Creative Imagery and Prayer

Why is Imagery so important to us? Imagery is a healthy daydream, and we all do it to enhance our life, to help us cope and to escape. Using imagery in our everyday life can actually be very healthy. It can help us reduce our stress.

Creative Imagery and Prayer
In prayer, we can't help but use imagery. In fact, the more vivid the imagery, the more moving our prayers will be. Our bodies don't know the difference between what is going on in our minds and what is reality.

Consider this: Read this, and then close your eyes and give it a try: Imagine taking a lemon and holding it in your hand. Take that same lemon and cut it in half. Imagine putting it up to your nose and notice the odor of that lemon. Imagine taking a big slice and putting it in your mouth. Is your mouth watering? Probably. Is there really a lemon making your mouth water? No, but your body and mind think it is real. That is the power of imagery and your imagination.

Imagery is also a window of your inner world, your own way of seeing those surrounding you. It’s a mean of distorting the reality that can direct your life and sometimes even shape your health. But in our life, imagery is often thought of being impractical.

Creative Imagery and Prayer
But how powerful is imagery? First of all, think of all the cases where people miraculously abolished diseases. Bernie Siegel, MD is a pioneer with regard to this topic. Take a look at my book store to learn more. You won't be disappointed in his natural and informational writing. In fact, my first introduction to holistic health and imagery were through his wonderful books. I still revisit them once in a while. Imagery can also make you pass through the emotional aspect of any illness, encouraging the physical healing.

Just click on any item to learn more. You won't be disappointed! Remember that every purchase you make through this site helps me to keep improving. Thank you so much for your support!

Next time you pray, think about the imagery you use. What images go through your mind? How do you feel about them? (Remember that worry is an image, also-so not all imagery can be positive.) Enhance your prayer life by injecting more and more imagery. It can be very powerful.

Read the full page by clicking on the title link!

Love

2009-02-01T22:47:00.001-08:00

February is the month of love and of showing that love. I've created some beautifully, romantic peices of jewelry using Swarvski crystals, which are magnificant! I chose heart shaped rose, siam red, amethyst, and yellow topaz pendants with a gorgeous silver bail and chain. The matching tear drop neckaces are perfectly understated. This set will sell for only 50$ for the month of February or until supplies run out. This is a great deal so you'll want to buy early. I'll ship it to whoever you wish!Click on title link to go directly to Carmen's Treasures and then look for Swarovski crystal sets to make your own choice. Let me know how you like them!

The Lost Dreamer

2009-01-29T22:03:00.000-08:00

A Prayer For The Lost Dreamer in All of Us
Dear Father,
Today I open my heart and my ears so that I may follow your guidance.
You know why I am here, who I will touch and what joys are waiting for me.
I surrender my life to you and I willingly follow.
Help me find silence so that I may hear.
Remind me that with your guidance I am safe and secure.
When I follow my heart I follow you-and only then will I be at peace.
I'm a slow learner, dear Lord, but I know you will not give up on me.
Your lessons have not been wasted on me, and I am ready.
Amen

Dedicated to all of us who are trying to remember our dreams so that we might find true joy and peace. It is never too late!

Thank you to all my readers and contributors. You are helping my dream come true.

Birthdays: A Time to Reflect

2009-01-26T00:01:00.000-08:00

Hello All!
Well, I just had another birthday! This was a big one-the Big 5-0! Every birthday, holiday season and a few other specific times of the year, I think about where I was last year, what I achieved during the year and how I feel about it all. You may gather from what I've already written on this blog, that I'm a very 'feeling' kind of person-I can also be very intellectual, but my actions are usually driven by my gut feelings. Hey, so far so good (eventually!).

My goal for the past 12 months was to try to remember what I really wanted to be when I grew up, and discover what it is that I want to do now that I am grown up. So many of my adult decisions were made out of necessity, which isn't a bad thing. However, enough 'necessity' decisions leads to a life of lost (forgotten) dreams. Quiet prayer and patiently waiting to hear the words of God in my heart helped me to find my way. These are some of the images and memories that came to me while in prayer. Don't laugh now...

I was kind of a dork in high school. I was likeable, though, I think. I was also a music freak. I played woodwinds and practiced like a maniac until I started working after school and on week-ends when I was about 15. My father had heart disease, and my parents did all they could, but if I wanted to go to college I needed to work for it. I knew I wanted to go to college, so I worked hard. I didn't mind this so much because I enjoyed learning new things, and I liked having people to talk to. It was all so new to me, and so exciting!

I also loved writing. My literature classes were my favorite non-music class, and my teachers were such mentors for me. When it came time to choose a college major and future career, music and literature were not high on the list with the adults in my life. How could I ever make a living? They were probably right. I knew that my passions simply reflected God's guidance for me. My intuition (God's voice) pointed me where I needed to be, although there was no time stamp. I'm simply listening again, and following the guidance that was always there. Isn't that where Joy comes from afterall?

So, what does this have to do with my Big 5-0 life review? Everything! I started playing guitar again and getting in touch with the love I had for music. It is so relaxing and life-giving. I published two websites and two blogs- over 200 pages so far. Ah, I have such a passion for learning and writing. I know I'll never run out of things to say! It is my prayer that my writing can help sustain us financially so that I can slow down at my 'day job.' That is my goal for this year! I enjoy my career (nursing), but not like I do writing. It was also a goal of mine to take better care of myself, however writing got in the way. It is tough to start a new passion and work a full time job, too. Bummer. This year will get me right back on track. I write a lot about balance on my websites, but I think that is because it is so tough for me to achieve.

I know there are others out there just like me: touching those lost dreams again! I could use some support, too. Please share your stories by commenting on this blog.

Next Post: Prayer for the Lost Dreamer in All of Us

Thanks for listening!

Prayer and Spirituality: Spiritual Needs

2009-01-23T00:01:00.000-08:00

I wrote about prayer and spirituality last post. This is one of my most favorite topics because I know I will never run out of things to learn. It seems that the more I learn, the more there is to learn and the more complex it gets. Considering spiritual needs was one approach that seemed to really make sense to me, though.

Prayer and Spirituality

Let's define spirituality by taking a look at our spiritual needs. We all have spiritual needs.

If our spiritual needs are not met, we might feel some distress-also known as spiritual distress You have probably felt spiritual distress many times, but just didn't know it. You may not have been able to even identify why you felt distressed. Wouldn't it be great to leave that all behind? You can!

Spiritual Needs
As humans, we all have the need to:

Connect with a sacred source

Believe in a higher power

Have Hope

Find Meaning and Purpose in life

Experience humor

Experience Forgiveness

Connect with Others

Have the ability to love and be loved

Be filled with a sense of Gratitude

Prayer and Spirituality

Not all needs have to be met at all times, but they must all be addressed. If this is new to you, address each item one at a time-one step at a time. Actually this is good advice for anyone. Wallow in it, experience it, enjoy it,learn from it and grow spiritually. Prayer will only help you meet these needs. Right now, I'm having a tough time finding meaning and purpose in my life because I'm not spending many of my days doing what I most enjoy. I inch out a little time for what really brings me peace while I work at what supports the family right now. I imagine many of you can relate. So, I try to look at doing what is needed right now as my purpose, and keep hope that I'll one day take as good of care of myself as I do others. In fact, that is something I really work at. There will be more of this in future blogs, because I'm sure I'm not alone.

Where there is heart-ache, there will be joy

Where there is loneliness, there will be connections

Where there is bitterness, forgiveness will seep in

Where there is apathy, there will be love

Where there are tears, there will be laughter

Where there is confusion, there will be clarity

Where there is despair, there will be hope
This is what prayer can do to enhance your spiritual well-being and turn your life around!
Amen